Engaged

Aweee hey. Look my proposal wasn’t the most magical, I knew it was gonna happen and I didn’t look my best. But my marriage is such a happy one. I didn’t even have a big wedding, but I really enjoyed the day. At the end of the day, that for show stuff isn’t what matters. Not every man is the show out type, and some that do show out aren’t good at heart. They do it to love bomb their partner and show their true colors later. If romantic gestures and spontaneity is what you’re after, it’s definitely not something engraved in every man. Maybe it can be taught, but even the act of having to explain and tell what would be a nice “spontaneous” way to show you some love takes the spontaneous part out of it. What REALLY matters is if you’re willing to accept this man for all his faults and take the good with the bad. 😢 which I’m sure there’s lots of good if you still said yes 🫶

I definitely feel you on this. My fiancé proposed on our anniversary and it was really cool how he did it but prior to that we had a conversation about how I want him to be more romantic and actually put thought into dates. “I want to go on dates that I don’t have to plan myself” was my literal words to him. And unfortunately I do agree with @Macey it can take the spontaneity out of a date when you know what’s gonna happen but it’s something better than what they were doing. I’ve also told him look on the internet, Pinterest and TikTok are where I get most of my date ideas from they can do the same.

I semi knew my husband was gonna proposed as he was being suspicious but then prior to that, we picked out a ring together on Amazon. He also asked my parents, grandparents and siblings for their blessings. The day of, I went with my sisters to get my nails done and he went over to his mom’s for whatever reason then we met up at Olive Garden (my favorite place) to have dinner. We eloped in 2022 on our 6 years anniversary. Next year, we’re celebrating 9 years together and 3 years married . My husband isn’t romantic whatsoever but he tries to.

My husband didn’t even get down on one knee (and it does bug me) he slipped the ring in my wine glass while we were at dinner and was so sheepish about it, but he’s not great about big gestures. I’d found the ring while cleaning our closet so I knew it was happening too. But I will say I have an incredible marriage and I love him more than I thought possible. We eloped at Taco Bell in Las Vegas 3 years later, and honestly that was perfect for us. Every relationship is unique and ‘comparison is the thief of joy’, there’s more important things than ostentatious shows of affection and it’s the relationship that’s important in the long run