Husband likes to look at thirst traps

One thing I’ve learned in my experiences of being a woman is that they didn’t stop making men when they made yours and you can always replace them. Once I started living my life with that mindset I found the perfect husband. Hopefully your husband loses his wandering eye but if he doesn’t always remember that there’s always a better man out there

Instead of him saying it's not a big deal how about some reassurance and support for the miracle your body is experiencing Ugh those with the Y chromosome

@Brittany 🫶🏼 well damn lol your words are interesting and powerful I like your mindset but not for this post lol

@Priscilla we’re all grown adults 💕🫶🏼 It’s ok to have different opinions and give different flavors of advice lol I don’t expect everybody to agree with anything I say but I will always share my opinion 🤣

@Brittany 🫶🏼 I know there’s men out there that don’t have this type of behaviour, I love this man and he’s great in other ways, but I just wish he’d show his attraction to me and channel that horniness to me. I find him so attractive and I don’t get it back. I just feel that he’ll do it even more secretly now. I think trust is lacking and it sucks :(

I understand totally and completely. I’m really sorry you’re going through this and just know that your feelings are valid

@Priscilla I agree, he’s not the best at helping when I get emotional, he gets defensive even though he was the cause. And I’m like the freakiest woman I will do anything he wants and want it all the time. He just seems to be interested in looking at other women and porn :( I need to think about the future really can I live with this or shall I leave because of the distrust. Hehe yes those with the Y chromosomes!

@Brittany 🫶🏼 thanks Brittany <3 deep down I know I deserve better.

I had issues with this and he stopped. if this is a boundary it should be respected

Would he be open to therapy? Or is it a possible phone or porn addiction?

He doesn’t seem to be attracted to your pregnant body but then again, you won’t be pregnant forever. One day soon you won’t be pregnant anymore, you’ll have the baby, and that’s a certainty. So I hope in your case, his attraction comes back when you have the baby, if he’s saying he’s not attracted to your pregnant body. It’s the light at the end of the tunnel.

Are you sure he’ll stop at just looking?

@Susie I really do think he has a phone addiction for sure, he’s practically on it all the time. Also he seems to have a interest in porn, I’ve caught him before but I believe he does it secretly when I’m not home, he doesn’t believe in therapy because he doesn’t think there’s anything wrong 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Kellie I know, also I love my fitness so I think I’ll snap back eventually with hard work. I do look after myself too so I don’t get it. Other men give me attention even during pregnancy, i just want it from my husband :( its not the best experience being pregnancy with him on the emotional aspect

@Rebecca honestly the thought does scare me, I feel as though he doesn’t have will power to say no, like if a woman approached him and I didn’t know about it, I get the feeling he’d go for it, but it’s a feeling I could be wrong, I wish he’d prove me wrong

I think you need to talk to him again and come from a logical perspective. - would he be okay with you secretively watching male thirst traps? - if he gained weight due to a temporary health condition, would he be okay with you looking at other men? Etc. He is trying to invalidate your feelings by saying it “isn’t a big deal” - but it IS. You’re growing HIS CHILD! While he doesn’t *have* to find your pregnant body attractive, he DOES have to respect you! It’s the secretively doing it in the dark and trying to hide it/invalidate your feelings that bothers me.