Tears when leaving baby with grandparents

You will probably find nursery is more reassuring as they're used to settling new kids in, you should have some settling sessions and she should be fine in time. Mine was and she's quite a clinger! Did you try leaving with the grandparents and actually getting out of sight? Does she know them well? Would maybe having them in her own home help? Mine used to cry while I was leaving for work then my husband could calm her down after 5 mins. I still get a sad "bye mama" when I leave but she knows I'm coming back and rarely gets really upset any more.

@Rachel she sees them once a month, she’s happy in their company only if I’m there, the minute they try to hold her she’s not happy, but she’s like that with most people. They just live so far so getting them out to me is always a challenge, easier for me to go to them. It’s good to hear about nursery, that’s my biggest worry since she’ll be there weekly. Interesting to see how it goes, cos she literally won’t sit anywhere but my lap lol

Mine is very much like that, I've found that if we stay somewhere or have people to stay here she does get used to them and will go to them, but it definitely takes at least a few hours to warm up and it has to be on her terms! We've left her with my MIL before for a few hours in the daytime and she's watched the monitor when we've gone out in the evening lol. I think having the other kids around helps at nursery, she can see they're ok and take confidence from them and she likes children a lot better than adults generally! She's found a few favourite workers at nursery now and goes to them for reassurance, she likes to ask where mama/daddy/dog are but understands when they say she will see us later. She takes a favourite soft toy in so had him out for cuddles most of the time at first but now he usually stays in her backpack. We did plan extra settling sessions at nursery but she's done much better than we thought actually!

My little boy has been in nursery since September, he still screams every time we drop him off and literally every day within half hour they’re sending photos of him playing as if nothing ever happened, and then doesn’t want to leave when I go to get him! He settles way easier in nursery than grandparents, there’s so many distractions and they are so used to settling upset kids x

I guess it’s quite late to leave her for the first time so she isn’t used to it - has she stayed with anyone before - personally I’d say do it as much as pos before Nursey or it’s gonna be harder than usual x