Adoption

I’ve never thought about it. But I think as long as you find a loving family that’s the main concern right?

I considered placing my first born for adoption as at the time I was a teenager and was sorely unprepared to parent an entire other human being. I told my mother who promptly shut me down, reminding me how this was a blessing from God. So yeah, at 17 I was not ecstatic to be a mom nor confident to follow through on decisions I felt were in my best interests (and that of my boy being in the care of adults who planned for him). I dealt with the emotional turmoil for many years, well into my later pregnancies, till only most recently I’ve been able to better reconcile that I am capable of being the mom my children need me to be. I am happy with my family now yet had I had the fortitude to make different decisions then, I would have planned to have my children later in life, when I was better established with myself, in knowing what I want— and if that meant being a mom at least it would have been on my terms.

I personally have never gone through this, but I am waiting adoptive foster home in nc and have worked with plenty parents who have either surrendered their rights to their kids or they were taken! And it’s always hard in the beginning, but the one thing to keep in mind as to find you a very strong support system if that is something that you decide to go forward with because it’s not a easy decision to make and you but it is always made out of love having a support system just helps ease all of that worry, fear, and doubt! And you will never be a bad person for just simply not wanting to be a mother right now! I always tell the parents who go through this stuff ( lids are usally older then an infant) that it is never their fault (especially if they surrender their rights because they want better for their child ) that Everything happens for a reason. & I would never look at a parent who didn’t want to keep their child for whatever reason like they were to blame. !! Its out of ❤️