Just asking

Omg yes my husband and I take turns with feedings and diaper changes but I feel like I still do everything more often. Since becoming a momma I noticed I worry more about things getting done and making sure the baby is okay before I’m okay. It gets overwhelming sometimes but if you’re comfortable try to see if dad doesn’t mind staying home with baby while you go out and do something for yourself. Or even just sleeping in or laying in bed. You got this mama❤️

@Jessica we take turns to but it’s just more so he works night shift and I stay at home but if I was to go back to work to, I know he wouldn’t hear the baby cry like that because when he sleep he sleeps. Plus when I wanna relax or take a bath or shower at night, it’s like Everytime I’m about to leave out my baby gets the feeling that I’m not around and wakes up.. I have no problem with it but sometimes I do want to enjoy my baths and a little time to myself.

I 100% feel this. He was so inactive in raising our little one for so long that even though he does a lot now I still feel frustrated when I get the brunt of a situation. It always feels like he could do more but we’re honestly pretty close to 50/50 right now. Being pregnant my son just wants me 24/7. There are times I leave to run to the store just to get a break and he cries with dad the entire time I’m gone. I think for me personally and it sounds like may be the case for you is the constant need from your little one and your partner doesn’t have to deal with that. I know that’s where my frustration stems from most of the time and why I feel like no matter what he isn’t doing enough.

Yep. My husband works nights too, so I have the kids at night and then he sleeps during the day. Nights are actually more enjoyable for me because I'm trying to keep the baby quiet during the day and toddler and baby quiet in the evening so husband can sleep. We also have a big bill from giving birth, so my husband has been doing overtime to help pay it off. But we've already started raising one kid so I know when baby gets older, we will take more turns.

@Sydney yes exactly, but I try my best to deal with it. So I try to focus on the best of it. I just don’t want it to get to a point where I’m really down about it.

@Samantha same here, but it’s like she cry with everyone and she wants to be under me all the time, nursing and sleep wise. I really think my baby is having separation anxiety from when we was at the hospital a whole week after us having skin to skin and then having to be under a light for her jaundice for a whole week.

@Kataya it’s definitely so hard and I try to remind myself that there will be a point when he’ll want dad more than me and just right now is not his time to be the primary parent. I’m at least choosing to believe there will be that point where there is a shift because he’s a boy and he’ll want to do boy things with dad 😂

Going on almost 3 years plus another one on the way

@Sydney it’s more easier to understand when you explain it that way. You are absolutely right, I think I should look at it more in that way.

@Kataya I hope that’s helpful and some days are easier than others that’s for sure! It was also helpful for me to thank my partner whenever he did do something because it reminded me that he is doing things and I’m not on my own. It can be counterproductive if you don’t feel appreciated at times so keep that in mind lol

Yes! I mean he constantly tells me just focus on the baby and I’ll do the dishes cleaning etc but then the house gets messy and it drives me insane and I just end up doing it myself and then I’m exhausted more than I was

@Kiran same here

@Sydney thank you a lot this is so helpful

@Kataya of course!

Definitely and they will never understand things from your perspective

I feel this. My husband helps when he can, but he has a few medical problems that make him too nervous/scared to do things with the baby alone. I'm doing 99% of everything, when I do ask him to keep an eye on him or feed him ( like when I have to go poop) I don't even get to finish half the time. He has a small form of Tourettes and his shoulder tends to lock up a lot. He helps around the house more with cleaning, making me food when I'm hungry, and of course, he works but his hours are usually mornings so he's usually home anywhere between 9am-1pm it all depends on the day.