Sounds like manipulation and control
No. Mine always listens to me and validates me and gives me a hug.
I said no but I think within reason. There are times when I absolutely consider my words and demeanour rather than just letting my emotions take up all the space. I think if there is a safe space for both of your emotions, that's healthy.
I've had this issue too... it's a quick way to shutting down any connection... husband has figured this out a little too late and I am over it