AITA for telling my friend she should stop having kids?

Shes 50. She has 8 kids. Her last 3 she's had back to back & all have multiple health issues. They are always in the hospital & have undergone different surgeries. I told her she should seriously think about birth control bc it's not fair to her kids. She's barely there for the other 5 kids bc shes always taking hare of the last 3 in the hospital. Her Doctor suggested the samething so idk how I'm the bad guy. I'm not at all saying kids with special needs don't need to be born. My son is special needs & he's absolutely perfect. What I'm saying is you have 3 kids with special needs who really struggling with health issues, up to your neck in debt, not showing up for ALL your kids. ALL of her kids are struggling. Yes the last 3 are the youngest & have health issues. But her other 5 are struggling too. & I feel they are being neglected. Her oldest struggles with taking care of her other siblings. She's basically a sahm to her younger siblings. No social life & when I spoke to her she broke down & said she just wants to pack up & move away & go to college but she can't bc her mom needs her. The 4 dad's are not involved. They don't help or contribute anything. Shes just selfish. Purposely having kids at her age knowing the health & financial struggle already & barely showing up for your "healthy kids" is just crazy to me. Not showing up for your other kids bc the are healthy & don't need you as much is such a dumb thing to say. Healthy or not they are still your kids & you need to show up for them. I just really feel for her kids & feel like its unfair to all of them