Christmas alone
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I don’t know if it helps, but my ex’s family always did their big stuff on Christmas Eve. My family always did Christmas Day. Thank god, despite the HUGE exhole he is, he agreed that he takes Christmas Eve (and the day prior) to do his thing with them, and then I get them from like 9pm on Christmas Eve and the following day. He’s still living here for another 2 months *shudder* so, silver lining, I get to at least see and be around my kids for all of it for one last year. I know it’s not the same, but solidarity! I KNOW that I’m going to be just an absolute mess the very first time they go to his place. My babies are, and always have been, my shadows!!! Losing even school time is difficult for me (and then!). Next year is going to be a living/waking nightmare. Before Christmas, during and after. 🥺😢😭
The dad isn't allowed to know I live for my safety. (Didn't want to add In the post but neither of us drive either and no transport over Xmas so no new arrangements can be made... he wants them all the time. Likes to rub what ever he can in my face (abusive relationship,had help leaving him) But gonna have to trust my child there while not spending Xmas with them. Feel hopeless... just as he wants too. So sad.
@Alissa oh yes ... I have Spanish friends and they celebrate Xmas of Xmas eve so I used to spend it with them and then Xmas day with my children at home. But they went back to Spain. I completely understand the shadow .. my 3 year old has started preschool one day a week and lose myself while he is away from me. Luckily it's only a few hours.
We do Christmas eve at dad's and they do Christmas at home so they have the day to just relax in pajamas and play. They get to open gifts at his house on Christmas eve.