Not connecting with baby

Babies can sense when you are tense. I had a similar experience with my first daughter. It gets better when they are over seven months. He knows you're his momma. He is also getting use to you.

You're putting adult emotions on a child. His thoughts are not your thoughts ... Maybe you need to go to a mommy and me group near you. Get out ths house.

Skin to skin. Cuddles are everything at this age. Contact naps whenever you can! Also spend time just talking to him soothingly, he doesn’t have to smile or coo. You are his mama, he just needs eye contact from you to automatically lower his cortisol. You can also spend time giving him a baby massage as part of bed time, with lotion and gentle movements for his arms and legs. Sing to him quietly, tell him about your day. And know that he is processing every single thing you do and learning from you, even if he seems too little to do so. You’re showing him the world just by sitting with him and talking, or holding him as you walk through your home. It will get easier. If you’re still unsure after a few more weeks, I recommend seeking support - talk to your Dr and maybe they can recommend parent groups or therapists!

Aw sending you love!! I second that they can sense when we’re tense or stressed. Maybe just try to breathe with baby and remind yourself you’re a great mama, even if you don’t feel like it. Keep telling yourself, recite it to yourself in the mirror, it will help your confidence which will in turn help you relax, which will help you bond with baby Also.. My baby was fussier with me than her daddy and I had a hard time with that. She’d cry with me and barely with him. I just recently saw something that reminded me babies cry to communicate. They see us, their mamas, as their primary caregivers so they are trying to communicate to us in their own way that they need something, because they know we will help them. They know we are the ones they can ask for help, whether that’s food, to be changed, to be comforted, etc… Your baby probably is more comfortable with you than you think, they’re asking you, their trusted caregiver, for things they aren’t asking others for You’ve got this mama

I felt this too but I think they just feel us feeling blah. I had a period of big adjustment becoming a sahm, as much as I’m grateful it can be lonely and make you go a little stir crazy at times. I had to learn to change my thoughts and it took time. I was so stressed about doing things right for baby and then stressed that I wasn’t getting enough done around the house that my days were just stress. I started to catch myself stressing about the house and remind myself that it’s very normal to feel like wanting to do more but being nap trapped and this age is not going to last long and things are going to get easier. I read a lot of other moms stories about it too. Do whatever it is that you can to have fun, having visitors over, going to baby story times at your local library, getting out for walks or doing a quick exercise video during a nap time if you can, eating as best as possible and giving yourself fun treats!