waiting for sex after birth

I had no choice as I didn't stop bleeding until the 6 weeks were up.

I actually can’t believe it either bc they’re literally risking their life

Girl same. I’ve seen posts where they’re going at it just days after giving birth and they think it’s okay because they had a c-section lol I don’t get it. I also witnessed first hand my sister in law and my girl friend get an infection after having sex with their husbands before the 6 week mark and they became violently ill. So after seeing that I was like yeah- he’s not touching me.

I'm not surprised there are people who don't stop to think about their body, medical advice or have patience. It's kind of how a lot of humans are 😂 but with that said, what someone choses to do in this circumstance is something I couldn't care less about.

Super true they literally tell you you’re RAW inside and people don’t get that ??? They have a wound the size of their placenta like I- that is serious 😭 just wait it out

Yassss 👏🏻 preach girl !! I was literally so horny watching my man become a dad it made me want to give him another one !! But deff waiting till 6weeks. That and be kg busy w baby trying to have as many bonding experience .

I will always remember this one woman on here who posted on a thread about having sex 2 HOURS after having a vaginal birth 😵‍💫

I wish I could relate I lost my drive to pregnancy, never returned after. Any time I do have sex it was always forced bc I want my husband to have his needs met so I try sometimes. Ended up having 2 more babies, same deal every time, here I am 6w PP no drive in sight not seeing any sex in my future and dreadinggggg it completely.

3 weeks pp via c section. We have more than one hole🤷🏻‍♀️😂 listen my sex drive was depleted entire pregnancy. I did get pregnant again at 8 weeks pp tho🫣😭. This time that man never gonna touch me again.

@Neena omg the one who banged her man in her HOSPITAL BED? So stupid.

@Arysson girl 💀 i assume you mean in the back door.. that sounds like actual hell PP. with that behavior i’m not surprised you got pregnant so fast 😭 good luck

@Amanda Brown i’m sorry 😞 i hope it’ll be better for you this time

@J yes and i feel like bonding as a couple ~without~ sex was really positive for multiple reasons

@Stacey 🇵🇸 that’s terrifying, i can’t imagine dealing with that on top of having a newborn

I get PP hormones affect people in different ways (for me, drive was completely tanked, not interested at all). So I understand women who's hormones make them really want it! But I think part of being a good partner and caring for your PP wife/girlfriend is NOT having sex with them until they're cleared 🫠

I dont know how people are so sex hungry after giving birth. I didnt even want to be touched for like 3 months pp. Sex is the last thing on my mind when i have a newborn. Its so weird to me that they are risking their lives for a few minutes of pleasure. Its like they dont think their relationship can survive without sex.

@Grace agreed! i know the men are partially to blame

It’s not always hormones. I have ptsd and I can’t go long without sex. After 1 week my mind was in a bad place by 1.5 weeks I thought about putting myself on a 51/50 I legit wanted to die. I had talked to my doula n she said I should b fine that it outweighs the cons. I didn’t want to miss time with my daughter but I also wasn’t present mentally for her. So ya I had sex by week 2. It was the lesser evil to me.

@a mom i think that unfortunately some people’s relationships don’t survive without sex. or maybe more like the man can’t survive without it and the woman will do whatever to keep him. it’s sad

@Neena I remember this. Weren’t they still at the hospital?

I waited 5 wks 6 days so technically all 6 wks?

It hurt so much trying to have sex after giving birth! I think we waited 5 weeks after our first.

4 weeks here with both 🙋🏼‍♀️ Had c sections and I wanted to do it. I would never advise anyone else to do so though.

I could only wait 4 weeks via c section if you seen my man you’d understand 😭😏

Yes lmfao. Yeaaa definitely not making the same mistake twice tho 😭 thanks

With my first we were so overwhelmed with becoming parents we didn't even have to avoid it, I feel. Neither of us really wanted it until things settled down a bit more

@Stacey 🇵🇸 i remember this one. My jaw dropped to the ground. I thought surely that's made up lol

If my man’s main focus is when he can get into bed with me again I don’t want it. Like ugh let my body transition and heal and feel comfortable again

We waited ages. Been together coming 10 years we’ve had our romping multiple times a day, there’s more to life than that at the moment 😅

@Neena nooooooooooooo!!!

I didn't wait, made it to 4 after my first and 2 after my second. My discharge papers from my Dr and also from my Drs mouth were I can return to all normal activities after 2 weeks as I feel comfortable. This includes exercise, daily activities/chores, and sex as long as we use condoms to prevent infection. Those were my guidelines after a c section and they are essentially the same post vaginal as well. My husband was more than willing to wait as long as I wanted but my sex drive was back to normal and I wanted to🤷🏼‍♀️ I was aware of the risks and precautions and I told my Dr at all of my check ups after that we were active and there were zero concerns

@R 🪬 I was hoping it was just some kind of ridiculous troll post but then the other day she posted an update under that post saying she’s pregnant again. it actually made my skin crawl thinking about what if that were me.

Mine wouldn’t even if I wanted to…he was warned by the midwife 💁🏻‍♀️😂 I think she’s seen or heard her fair share of pressure from the partners as her time as a midwife I mean she was half joking but was half serious as well.

I did wait, but almost immediately after I gave birth I suddenly got my sex drive back like a smack in the face! While pregnant I had horrible smell aversions and could not breathe in around my partner, but thankfully that completely disappeared as soon as my daughter was out. So weird! I've heard stories from people who were so happy and surrounded by love that they could not resist, and also there are other ways to define sex that don't involve penetration. Even with my sex drive back though, we did not feel up to it until around 8 weeks, I think.

@Vanessa can i ask... what do you mean by "...PTSD and cant go long without sex"?

I did it at 4 weeks because I felt bad for my husband, he waited for like 3 months before that because my last trimester was awful and I had pre-eclampsia.

The babies are now one year old and it’s been four years since we last had sex 😂

You don’t need to have sex to have babies.

I don’t judge, but I do think that too many new parents are not well informed on WHY you should wait. It’s takes about 6 weeks for the cervix to go back down, and while it’s dilated is much more susceptible to infection. This is why laboring in water needs to be done properly, and why baths should be avoided for those 6 weeks too.

@Lauren I’m also curious bc it sounds like she needs a therapist or medication :( those things are so good and sex sounds like a horrible coping mechanism

@Laura Byrne not sure what that has to do with this lol

Just that you don’t need to ever have sex. We don’t want more children so probably won’t. I don’t get the people who say they want it instantly after having a baby. I’ve got better things to do with my time!

@Laura Byrne true, but you can enjoy and have sex without wanting a baby. if being celibate works for you that’s great, i could never lol

What’s the point of this post? You waited good for you. Why don’t you just keep it to your self lol… you make other fellas feel bad or so🤷🏽‍♀️. You don’t have to post you know! rn….still pregnant with my first🩵

@Princes the point was i wanted to share my thoughts 🤷🏽‍♀️ if someone feels bad then that’s on them, it has nothing to do with me or my opinions. you don’t have to read or comment ya know !

Noted!

It doesn’t work for me but I have no choice. It’s a lot of work begging and degrading myself so I don’t bother now. It’s been made clear it’s a procreation effort and nothing more

My husband didn’t even mention it once when we hit the 6 weeks mark and I only felt comfortable a few weeks later