Sex after birth

I waited 6 weeks. It's not necessarily the vagina that needs healing it's your insides. And anal doesn't have to be messy lol. I've never had "an accident" and I do it quite frequently 😂

I did it at 4-5 weeks pp and it didn’t hurt. I had a second degree tear, my stitches had already healed and my body just felt good enough and healed to do it again

I didn’t tear and waited 8 weeks because it felt too painful at the 6wk mark. I didn’t necessarily have a drive either thanks to sleep deprivation and ppd. 🙃

I had a 3rd degree tear and I didn’t end up having it until I was over 3 months pp one because I was scared and 2 because I just didn’t want to 😂

I had a c section… so tearing doesn’t count for me. I just still waited 6 weeks

I didn’t have sex until I was like 6 month pp 😬 and I still don’t really have a sex drive and he’s 2 lol

After my 2nd we had sex after 4weeks, I had no tears and bleeding had stopped. With other 3 I waited 6 and 8 weeks as I was bleeding for longer 🙂

I had foreceps, 30 stitches, and I had sex at 4/5 weeks, it wasn’t something that I needed to have but one thing just led to another, it didn’t hurt

I have had sex around 6w with my second after having a 3rd degree tear. It stung. I also experienced tightness… like the inability to relax everything and enjoy sex. Sex always seemed to hurt internally since I get pregnant w my second. This time around I’m not rushing it at all I just don’t want to force it and I don’t want to open my tear back up. I still feel it sting a bit when I sit down sometimes and I don’t want to have sex anyways. I feel like I could go forever without it.

A lot of you said you stopped bleeding sooner… but like so did I. I stopped having blood at about 2 weeks ish but the lochia has not stopped. The light yellow and sometimes different colors discharge that smells disgusting and weird that goes on forever. There’s no way you guys did not have that going on. Did you take a shower or something???? Or just ignore it? Like I haven’t even gotten my first period yet. It’s the same with all 3 of mine and online I see it’s supposed to last this long for most people it’s kind of standard PP stuff. My husband is obviously dying for sex. N I say no bc one I’m not ready, 2 I know it’ll hurt and 3 the lochia just stinks really bad and I know it won’t be pleasant for anyone. The only way that we’d be able to get pay that is the shower and I don’t want to anyways so no sex for anyone.

I waited 3 months after birth, Am not that desperate.

Same I’m confused as to all the people who “can’t wait”. Where do they get the energy.

I am 4 almost 5 week pp and my bf is offended that I have 0 sex drive I won’t even do oral and he isn’t just not understanding of why I don’t feel like myself as of right now and it hurts my feelings lowkey . I get mad at him for even touching me cause I don’t even wanna be touched. A hug and kiss yes. Smacking my butt or bending me over and humping me? Absolutely not.

Same here Emilee lol. Luckily we have been through this already. I have given him head maybe 2x since having baby 6w ago just bc I want him to feel good and feel bad lol.