Baby's first Christmas

Hello! Not really looking for advice or anything, just wanted to vent 🥲 Yesterday was my baby girl's first Christmas, she's only 3 weeks old, but yet the entire day was spent with me just watching my family members hold/cuddle her trying to keep a cool face whilst on the inside I was an anxious mess and just wanting my baby back, but feeling too awkward/polite to say anything 😞 not because my family members were doing anything bad/wrong, was just new mum anxiety 😅 and today we're visiting some of my partner's family and I feel like it's just going to be the same situation again! I just wish I wasn't such a doormat when it came to setting boundaries with regards to MY own baby 😭

Show your support

What saved me when baby was small was baby wearing, if you have a stretchy sling or anything you can wrap baby in where they’re connected to your baby. I found people asked a lot less when I was baby wearing and if they did I felt okay to say that actually baby was wrapped up and I didn’t want to disturb them 😊 I hope today goes okay, new min anxiety is so real! You’re doing amazing to even see people at Christmas this year ❤️

Tell them about RSV! Tell them that’s why you aren’t passing her around yet until the winter season is over

I would have told them she’s too young..I didn’t allow anyone besides her father and I to hold her up until she was 2 months .. They said I was being extra but as FTM I didn’t care .. I was terrified something would happen to her..

I understand!! I think Amber’s suggestion of baby wearing is great, that way no one can just put their hands out to gesture you pass your baby over. It’s really easy to think of boundaries and imagine yourself being firm and then it all goes tits up in the moment because you don’t want to offend anyone. 3 weeks is very young though and babies are so vulnerable at that age especially in winter with lots of bugs circulating. Not to scaremonger you but more to hopefully give you some strength to be firm. You’ve got this 💪🏻

I feel this!! I definitely had this experience over the holidays. I would be breastfeeding baby and family members were arguing over whose turn it would be to hold her after I was done… I was literally like, maybe I want to hold my own baby on Christmas! They had the audacity to say that I get to hold her every day 🙃 I found that when I was proactive about stating a plan (grandpa, can you finish this bottle while I prep something in the kitchen?) was helpful as well as trying to breastfeed as much as possible because no one else can do that 😂 even if she was done and had fallen asleep, I just kept her under my shirt to nap for a bit so people wouldn’t pester. I also tried to do lots of tummy time because family members weren’t apt to want to be on the floor…

‌

‌
‌

‌

‌
‌

‌

‌
‌

‌

‌
‌

‌

‌
‌

‌

‌
‌