Am I overreacting?

So my husband told his dad I was making a specific dish for dinner, his dad loves when I make this, so I said I would cook most of it at home and come to my in laws to finish it and everyone can eat together. Leaving home I had a specific plan, I have a different way of making this dish than my MIL or SIL. I had things in different containers and in specific amounts. The plan was to drop things at my in laws and run to the store before it closed(for something unrelated) and the come finish cooking the dish. Well while we were gone for maybe 20 minutes my MIL and SIL took it upon themselves to finish my dish. I came in ready to put things together and I find my containers open and done in their way, which results in it not tasting the same as when I make it. I didn't show it, but I feel crushed. I take a lot of pride in my cooking, especially the traditional foods from my husband's culture and this one that my FIL loves so much when I make. I feel angry they did that knowing we wouldn't be long and that I said I would do it when we get back(which no one had a problem with). Am I overreacting here? Should I feel so hurt by this?

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Well, personally I'd be mildly annoyed but not deeply hurt at all 🤷‍♀️

Let it go! Next time come with everything so you don’t have to leave run to the store again.

I would be annoyed af to be honest, but they were probably only trying to help so I personally probably would have just ignored it and carried on with the night

I think you’re completely valid. They touched your things and messed up something you were gonna do. There was no reason for them to do that. Anyone who disagrees is basically telling you to be a doormat. It is normal to bring parts of things to holiday get togethers and finish it there!

I think I feel so hurt because I'm basically an outsider, I'm from a different country and culture. I'm also the youngest in the family, apart from the kids, and sometimes they treat me like I don't know things from their culture eventhough I've completely immersed myself in it. I left my country to come here, I've been with my husband for 8 years and have been perfecting this dish for all of those years. As soon as we left my husband asked if I was sad, he completely understands and agrees that it tasted almost totally different than if I would have finished it.

@Princes I did let it go, I didn't cause a fuss or let on I was upset by it. It was always the plan to go to the store after dropping the kids, it was nothing for the dish. Also this dish isn't the same if you just reheat it after. I had everything prepared, just left the final mixing of components to do before serving.

@Levi I know they were just trying to help which is why I didn't say anything or have an attitude, I just went to the bathroom for a moment after I made sure they found all my containers as some were in the fridge and took some deep breaths. They're honestly lovely people and I am thankful that they feel open enough to include me as family since I am from such a different place with no family of my own anymore.

Overreacting, no. Hurt, yes. However I would let it go and try preparing that dish for him another time.

Pressed the wrong answer , you’re not over reacting xx

I'd be annoyed, you was cooking food so why did they get involved? xx

Sounds like they were trying to be sweet and helpful

You are definitely overreacting. I would just be grateful that they saved me a job at such a busy time.

@Rachel No one saved me a job. I was making it for dinner already and when my husband told his dad he asked if we could come over and bring it for him as well since he loves my version a lot. We don't celebrate Christmas, so it's not a busy time for us.

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