Is it okay to tell your new borns grandparent that you need space and you will get back to them

My newborns grandmother is overwhelming and has been texting me so much..her and her son have ruined my experience as a first time mom with her pressuring him and he’s a deadbeat. I have been feeling at peace now that I haven’t been communicating with him and her. She’s not much help but wants to be on the phone all day. All talk but no action. Is it okay to tell her I need some mental peace since I’m doing everything on my own and will get back to her. It’s also a lot for me to process that my daughter will have a grandmother but not a father or one that will show up then dissapear for a month/months. I honestly regret reaching out to her during my pregnancy she finally met me after the baby was 3 weeks.

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Just don't answer.

@Aurélie I feel bad I haven’t answered for a week she keeps writing everyday but it’s draining.

You need to explain to that person you are first time single mom and you have a lot on your plate right now and being sleep deprived. Explain you cannot communicate via phone right now as you have your hands tied with baby/catching up on sleep. If you feel comfortable with it, I would offer a short in-person visit. That way to get her to stop blowing up your phone and see if she actually wants to visit rather than just talk about it. Does she want to be present or not? Being present isn’t just asking for updates or pictures. It’s showing up in person, bonding, helping you, etc. keep your head up. That kind of mom guilt took over me for a while too but my son is almost 2 now and I have no problem cutting people off that don’t deserve his time and preciousness

@Taylor yes I do need to say all of that. Thanks for understanding exactly where I’m coming from. It’s so easy to just FaceTime and act like you care instead of actually coming around and helping.

Tell her you need space and if she still doesn’t get it just stop replying and answering.

Tell her you guys can set up a time once a week and send her pictures of the baby or every other week whatever works for you and she can still be apart of the baby's life

@Bianca Renee good idea

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