Bad birthday gift?

What's the gift?

What’s the gift? depends if it’s thoughtful ect, could he have bought you other stuff too xx

It’s a ring. It’s basically not in the colours, metal or style I would wear. This has never happened before, he’s always been a thoughtful gift giver. We went all out for his birthday - big trip, party with friends, gifts. But in recent months he’s been saying that we won’t be able to do as much for mine because of money and baby. I’m the main breadwinner and would be happy to pay for a celebration… All feels very difficult and hurtful.

Hmm, tricky one. When I first saw my engagement ring I thought it wasn’t necessarily what I would have chosen but then I realised it’s what he chose for me and for that I love it! But I think if I was you I’d be more upset that he’s not making the same amount of effort for your milestone birthday as you did for his. Perhaps his thinking is that since you paid for his bday he wants to do the same for you but can’t afford it? I’m not sure how you manage money but perhaps remind him that the money pot is shared and you feel like it’s worth going all out for milestone bdays to try and take any money stress out of the equation? You can also just remind him what you did for his bday. My husband did that to me last year and I was like yep fair play let’s go hard for both our birthdays!

Thank you I appreciate that. I did wonder about the thought process. And maybe I’ll learn to love the gift? I hope so. He’s not been himself for the past 6 months or so - this isn’t usual for him. Maybe things will change soon