Is this my fault?

I’m 10 months pp now but have had a worsening prolapse since 6 weeks pp. I am so ashamed of my body, I hate how I look, how I feel and nothing makes me feel good about myself. I just feel like I’ve caused this by not doing pelvic floor exercises properly before birth and it just makes me angry with myself. I have only had sex twice since giving birth but too embarrassed to do it more. I am going to a physio and I will feel less crap for like a week then it just falls again. It won’t stay up. It’s consuming my thoughts and it’s definitely stolen the joy out of my journey as a first time mum. I don’t know what to do anymore. I can’t live like this forever. I want more children in the future but with this going on I’m considering just being done already.

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I feel you I’ve tried PT losing weight and exercise and pessary and now I’m opting for surgery.

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@Cire what kind of surgery are you going for? It’s so shit. I just feel as well that if men had this happen to them then people would care more or more research would go into it. I’m honestly just so done. It’s destroying my mood. And I just to hold it in because nobody close to me has any understanding about it

I relate so much. I’m getting a pelvic organ prolapse repair surgery with a bladder sling and then after that since it last for 10 to 15 years, I’m getting a full hysterectomy.

I get it. It’s mind-boggling that it’s not talked about more or surgery isn’t talked about as much who the heck wants to walk around with their organs falling out of them. I have a uterine and cystocele.

@Cire I have the same. It started with bladder and uterine but uterus started to go back but we had a string of illness with RSV, norovirus and then another cold so my uterus fell more and it’s just right there now too. I wish there was a way of just popping it back up in easily. When it happened initially I saw my GP and his response was “maybe you should talk to someone female instead?” And didn’t do anything for me. Didn’t refer me anywhere and didn’t book me another appointment. It broke my heart to think nobody cared. That surgery sounds hectic. Are you done having babies or can you have another with the repair?

I don’t want another kid it’s not worth making it worse. My prolapse went from a grade one to a grade 2 within months

@Cire I have read in some of the Facebook support groups that a hysterectomy may make prolapses worse as you lose more internal support, for some it has been the cause of their prolapse. I’m no expert though but thought I would mention x

@Emma my muscle tone is all there it depends on your situation

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