My Baby Hates Her Dad!

That’s wild! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Hard for strangers to say but how does he play with her? Talk to her? Hold her, etc? Is he rough, shouts or does he do anything you think could make your baby uncomfortable? What's happened since 2/3 wks, have they been left alone in that time? What was he like before then? Did she only just meet him or was happy with him before that time?

Has he changed anything like his aftershave or washing powder or even cut his beard or something like that

Mmmmm kinda aren’t really born caring or judging on skin color….. but babies can sense peoples character I know that’s for sure !

That’s kinda like mine but she’s 1year almost 2 and I’m black he’s white. He doesn’t come everyday, only when he can come & when he does she would cry loads. I was thinking maybe skin colour but then if she sees people outside, she totally fine. My family she’s fine with. I don’t know exactly what but even tho, we’re not together anymore so that’s another

Yeah we’re not together either. Nothing has changed. He’s exactly the same with her. He’s left with her probably a maximum of 5 mins in the whole time he’s around her. She use to see him and she’d have a huge smile on her face. She would laugh when they played. I don’t know if it’s just because she’s constantly with me. I don’t know. It’s getting me down but he’s just saying it’s a phase she’ll be fine soon.

Baby’s eyesight start to really kick in more around 4 months so facial recognition for them becomes a thing. My baby was fine with my parents holding her but now that she can see she screams and they’re all high yellow like me. Babies don’t judge it’s about familiarity of whose around more. So, whoever she sees the most and whoever voices she recognizes is who the baby will feel the most comfortable around. It can last from like 1 to 3 years of age. Either way the more he comes around and spends time with her the more comfortable she will be.

I tried different things and still nothing. I’m mainly the parent with her a lot more and I’m pregnant again with baby no2. I really don’t know if he’s gonna bother with this 2nd baby. - Incognito

She’s completely fine on FaceTime with him. She’ll smile like she use to when he came here. He will see her probably 5/7 days of the week sometimes it’s just coming to nighttime routine with her as he finishes work at five and she’s in bed at seven he usually gets here around 17:40 so he’ll take over feeding her as she’s on solids under doctors orders and then we’re give her a bath together then he’ll usually say goodnight to her and I’ll give her a bottle and put her in the cot. Then we’re see him either Saturday for a good 6/7 hours or Sunday for 6/7 hours. Sometimes both days depending on what I’ve got on or he has got on. She sees him a lot more now than she was a couple months ago because he’s now got a 9-5 job and not working ridiculously mad hours.

@Lorraine I hope he does. It’s hard because I just want to be able to give him her and wash her bottles or sort the washing out and not have to worry about her. She won’t even take a bottle from him anymore. She’ll just scream. He can’t give her normal food as she’ll just scream. It’s just getting hard work and feels pointless him coming over I love to see him though we have such a great relationship and it gives me adult conversation

My son was like this so we put my husband's worn t-shirt under the mattress to get him used to his scent. I think it worked... When I stopped nursing my son, he only wanted daddy. Key is for him to not give up. Also, race isn't the issue. It's familiarity.

He sees her so much though. She’s fine with my mum holding her and she only sees her one weekend a month. It’s his only daughter and he always wanted a daughter. He just keeps saying it’s a phase she’ll get over it soon. I want him to be able to take her and give me a break but the way she cry’s breaks me. Gets to about 10 mins of her crying the way she does on him and I just have to take her. I want to take her as soon as she cries but I know if I do that she’ll never get use to him or whatever is the issue.

Sounds like she’s used to you and knows when he comes home he might take her attention away from you and she’s aware that she wants you 🤣 but that doesn’t mean she won’t want him over the next person lol she’s just getting clingy sounds like

Lmfaoo i dont think its the difference in color of your skin but that made me laugh 😆 At only 5 months I feel like this could be normal. Like maybe she sees him and thinks he’s gonna pick her up but she rather have u? 🤣 idk. I think one of mine was like this for awhile

It’s him that said she’s being racist in a jokey way but then it got me thinking what if it is the skin colour because apart from him and her brothers from his marriage as they are technically still married she doesn’t really see a black person and come to think about it she’s the same with her brothers too she doesn’t really like them around her either. I just hope it is just a clingy stage as she’ll be fine soon.

Honestly my baby started acting that way when my husband went back to work. And around the same age too ! She's now 8 months and she is such a daddies girl. So it might be a phase. Their awareness is changing so if he's not around all the time she could just be like woah who are you. But my lo did this too lol, it got better after a month or so but like I said she's such a daddies girl now lol