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My “friend”, just got married to her husband after knowing him for only nine months. Which I know a lot of people will say isn’t a bad idea. However, he was still taking care of his baby mama and staying with her. Who he had been with for a few years and just had a son with maybe a few months prior. Anyways he was looking for an out and my “ friend” decided to be that out. Now keep in mind he told her for MONTHS his baby mama would be moving out BEFORE he started dating her ( she wasn’t). The baby mama would be out BEFORE they were married ( she wasn’t). In fact he said shes be out of his house too. BUT THE MOVED THE BABY MAMA INTO HIS NOW WIFES HOUSE. And now they are expecting their first baby, his 5. And have the baby mama kids and whole family there. Is my “friend” being naive? Do y’all think this man truly loves her.

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Hmm, something is wrong somewhere

It makes me wonder why she can't live on her own / with her family and if it's cuase she wants to be there or if he wants her there for other reason other then to be in his kids life

How young are the kids, I think it’s totally possible for him to love your friend.

friend i hate to be that girl but theres a possibility u may be projecting experiences of ur own or experiences you've heard. either way, its her decision who she wants to marry and under what conditions. if she has no problem, there is none.

I think from the post you sound like a concerned friend, when im concerned I aired my grievance out with that person whether they wanna hear it or not, in this situation I will just remind her of the lies he told her (or what u remember he said) such as she wasn’t living there, but she was, she was gonna move out but she didn’t etc and ask if she even comfortable in her own home now with all these recent life changes. There no way he should taking his bm along like she’s his child to me he wasn’t looking for a out besides on bills since he moved from one woman to the next so idk if it’s love or convenience which sucks

@rissa im not projecting any experiences of my own. I’ve had my share of trash guys that didn’t make any bit of sense. I’m just trying to look out for my friend since she now has a baby of her on the way and it’s going to be hard for her to have a husband like she needs if he is still tending too, and paying for ALL of his baby mamas stuff. I don’t mean like paying child support. He pays her phone bill, for her rent, is her driver for everywhere she needs to go. She is basically his dependent.

@Allexys his son with his baby mama is 1. And the bm other kid not by him is 10.

ive also has my share of trash guys, and we both know that if you express your concerns, and shes not leaving, she needs to learn for herself. if she needs resources i can help, but lets throw positivity at it, and pray that its a happy situation that they all can handle

Sounds like they may be sister wives to me 🤷🏽‍♀️

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