Is there hope?

Take conception tablets from now for both of you. It takes two to make a baby so shouldn’t rely solely on you. If husband can bare cold showers then it helps the swimmers. No alcohol and good diet. Take folic acid from when you start trying and once pregnant baby aspirin (75mg) once a day as helps “make it stick”. On our fifth pregnancy. 3 losses and this will be our second baby. It’s so easy to give up hope but it will work out in the end.

I’ve had 2 missed miscarriages before then an early pregnancy loss in November, and fell pregnant again in December (not intentionally) trying. From what I gather everyone’s story is different, but I’ve learnt this month that when I stopped focusing on trying to make it happen, it happened. A nurse/therapist said she had found that to be the case for so many couples. My advice to myself in this case would be to take the stress out of trying to do/make because that increases stress and cortisol, which won’t help.

Hello Chloe, Firstly, I am very sorry for your loss. I had two miscarriages back-to-back before getting my little rainbow baby. For my third pregnancy, I was offered and took progesterone pessaries; which was the only thing I did differently. You might want to have a look into progesterone pessaries and ask your early pregnancy unit if it is something you could try when you next fall pregnant. x

My first pregnancy resulted in a miscarriage but the next two gave me my two beautiful children. Plenty of people just have 1 loss and then a rainbow baby. Good luck

I had a miscarriage for the first time last year November 2023 at 7 weeks and got pregnant again May 2024, was constantly worried it’ll happen to me again and that I’d lose this baby. Each week was and is a milestone, I haven’t even given birth yet but I’m so confident and so happy and I know you will be too. A lot of women only have one miscarriage, and if you do end up having another then please speak to a midwife and see what they can do. I’m praying for your rainbow baby💖

Firstly, sorry for your loss. I'd like to encourage you to remain positive and rather focus on what could go right vs. what could go wrong. Continue taking your prenatals. I also had a miscarriage at 9 weeks in 2023. I continued taking my prenatals and fell pregnant again two months after the miscarriage. Had my daughter Aug 2024. I know you are hurting right now and feeling disappointed... but please, do try keep a positive mindset.

I had a missed miscarriage in July 2021 and had two operations, I then fell pregnant with my little boy in January 2022 and gave birth in the October. I then had another miscarriage in December 2023 and fell pregnant again in February 2024 and had my healthy baby in November 2024. I know it’s awful but please be reassured you will get your rainbow! I didn’t do anything different took my folic acid as soon as I got pregnant. Sending you love x

Try to remember that no-one really comes on here to post that everything is going fine so you will see an overwhelming amount of negative outcomes and it can be a bit too much sometimes, for me anyway. In reality, the chance of multiple losses is really, really low and you have every reason to hope for your rainbow. I haven't had mine yet but currently 22 weeks and all going well (healthy baby in 2021 and missed miscarriage in 2024).

I’m really sorry to hear about your loss but please know that one miscarriage doesn’t necessarily mean that more will follow. I had my little boy in 2022 and then I had a missed miscarriage in April of 2024 and am currently 34 weeks pregnant with my rainbow baby. I was so incredibly fearful that history would repeat itself and I do tend to think the worst but thankfully that wasn’t true and isn’t true for a lot of women. They sent the tissue away for testing (I had a d and c) and is often the case the cause was identified as a chromosomal abnormality. This is a very common and sadly unavoidable reason that a lot of women miscarry but it doesn’t mean that the next one will have an abnormality. All the best and try to stay positive. One miscarriage certainly isn’t the writing on the wall for future pregnancy risk xx

So sorry for your loss! Don’t be too discouraged, as hard as it is, try and have hope for the process! Also please don’t assume you had anything to do with the miscarriage. Research shows that males actually may have the stronger role in pregnancies resulting in a miscarriage. It’s best for both partners to be healthy, reduce stress, get hormones checked etc. https://www.fertilityfamily.co.uk/blog/men-and-miscarriages-its-time-to-talk/

I’m so sorry for your loss 💔 I’ve had 4 miscarriages and just gave birth 1 month ago to my little miracle 💙 After the last miscarriage we were referred to a fertility clinic where they did all sorts of testing. It all came back normal so the doctor told us we are okay to try again. As soon as I got pregnant the doctor put me on a high dose of progesterone suppositories and baby aspirin. I was also taking a prenatal, vitamin D and omega 3 for supplements. I truly believe the progesterone and baby aspirin is what saved my baby! Most women go on to have a healthy pregnancy after one loss so please don’t let this scare you into thinking you’ll have multiple. I just wanted to share to hopefully give you hope and the courage to not give up 💕

I’m so sorry for your loss. I got pregnant with my first in 2006 and it was a successful pregnancy. My second in late 2009 was a loss 💔 my 3rd in early 2010 and gave birth early 2011. My 4th I got pregnant in December 2023 or January 2024 and it ended in a loss in February 💔 now I’m pregnant with my 5th and I’m 20 weeks and everything looks great! He’s a healthy lil boy in the 80th percentile! I’m saying all this to tell you that there IS hope and DON’T give up! And TRY to stay positive cause that helps more than you know. It was SO hard for me to get excited this pregnancy cause of my recent miscarriage. I didn’t feel my first wave of excitement til I hear the heartbeat at 10 weeks 3 days. Even though I had SEEN it at 6 weeks. It was still hard to relax. Then I started convincing myself I had a missed miscarriage and didn’t feel my second wave of excitement til I had my 12 week ultrasound and saw that he had grown so much and was moving so much!! 🩵 I’ve been feeling a lot better since

Then but I’ve still had SOME fears as I started experiencing Braxton hicks really early on. But I went to the hospital for them twice and they did and ultrasound of my cervix and said it wasn’t opening or shortening so everything was ok and they were just Braxton hicks. Nothing to worry about and I can still work and do everything I normally do. One thing that helped me a bit was looking up the statistics. Cause statistically, your next pregnancy is FAR more likely to result in a baby than another miscarriage. And I know you see a lot of people with multiple losses on here, but that’s just cause so many are choosing to share cause they had a negative experience and need to vent. Again with the statistics, it’s HIGHLY unlikely to experience multiple miscarriages. Esp back to back. I had 2, yes, but they were 14 YEARS apart so I don’t even know if that even counts as repeat miscarriages or whatever they call it. Just keep trying, but stay relaxed about it and keep a positive mindset 🩵

I felt the exact same as you all I saw was multiple losses but then I’m looking in all the wrong places to not feel that way. Went through a chemical pregnancy then a miscarriage and I really thought there was no hope I would have a successful pregnancy again. I’m currently pregnant again and so far we’ve made it to 33 weeks. Unfortunately the worry never goes away that something might happen. This time round I didn’t tell anyone till 4/5 months pregnant as I don’t talk about it much especially in the beginning as I’m too scared of it being hyped up and becoming a reality. It has definitely helped me through it and I’ll discuss baby and any worries with my husband at home but to everyone else I don’t mention baby unless they do and that’s just how I cope. Sending lots of luck to you and pray you get your little rainbow 🌈 xx

We had a loss at 12 weeks and now have a beautiful healthy second child. We did a few health things. Both took vitamins/ teas, did yoga to help thicken uterus wall. Drank green smoothies and pomegranate juice. No alcohol for both. No hot baths for him. Exercise for both. I think it also helps to process the loss and deal with the fear/stress of pregnancy after loss as much as possible. There’s a great book called ‘Pregnancy after loss’ by Zoe Clark Coates. There’s definitely hope even tho the journey can be so hard…

So for me I didn't do anything differently. I'm currently 31 weeks with my double rainbow baby boy after two losses in 2023. I've had 4 pregnancies in total with two of them being successful. I hope that you have the baby you are wanting. I also have a 3 year old boy as well.

Thank you all for your wonderful comments. I really appreciate you taking the time to tell me your stories and just know that I’ll try to stay positive and not let my fears overcome me. Best wishes for all of you. ❤️

I had a miscarriage in April and got my positive test start of October I’m now 16 weeks +4days with my rainbow baby this is baby number 2 another little girl I feel like when I was stressing putting pressure on my self I wasn’t getting pregnant as soon as I relaxed I got my positive you got this sending baby dust x

There is absolutely hope. I’ve lost multiple babies and I was blessed with my daughter last Feb. The worry never eased, right up until she was in my arms. Every time I used the toilet I’d be terrified of seeing blood. There is absolutely hope.

So sorry for your loss momma In my experience I had my first born in 2022 I had my first miscarriage January of 2024 And was thankfully blessed with being able to conceive again by end of April 2024 and I now have my baby girl as my rainbow baby I was so traumatized that I’d keep having one after another but it thankfully did not. Stay positive momma !!💗 You’ll get your rainbow baby soon 🤞🏽✨💖

I’m currently pregnant with my rainbow, 6 months after our loss, I asked to be put on progesterone for peace of mind

I’ve gotten two rainbow babies 🥹