Cry it out method

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Eventually they won't cry but will still have their off nights

Why 😣

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/moral-landscapes/201112/dangers-of-crying-it-out

I wouldn’t try it because if my baby is crying, that means she needs something. She could be in pain, hungry, cold or feeling lonely. CIO teaches the baby to give up crying as they don’t expect you to be there for them anymore. Furthermore, it has been scientifically proven that it can have adverse effects. Lastly, I’ve been told that for some babies they need to be retrained for CIO during developmental leaps and sleep regressions. So it’s not always a fix all solution.

please don’t do CIO 😢

Are you asking about cry it out (where you put them to bed and shut the door and don't go back in till the morning) or the Ferber method (you let them cry for a few minutes before you go check on them)??

Even if they’re not ill/ dirty / teething / need winding - they might just need a cuddle from their mama 💔

This person isn't asking whether they should or should not try the CIO method. They're simply asking a specific question in regards to the method. So if you haven't tried it, maybe you should not be answering the question and being judgemental about it. This is why ppl post incognito because the Judies can't help themselves

Please message me! Happy to discuss how CIO worked well for us and the research our pediatrician provided us. Also, there is TONS of conflicting research about this method. So, do whats best for you and your LO, as long as they are fed, diapered and in a safe environment.

I would not recommend cry it out method - the baby eventually stops crying because they essentially give up and lose hope. It’s not good for them psychologically. Please attend to your baby , no matter how many time. This period will soon pass 🙏🏿

@Dianna I don’t think people are being judgmental. I think they are trying to inform a mother regarding something which may be harmful to their child. I don’t think there’s any harm in trying to prevent neglect.

I dunno 👆🏼 advice is speak to your peaditricisn to ensure baby is physically and emotionally ready. Like, how do you ascertain that an approx 16 week old is emotionally ready?

@Robyn implying the CIO method is neglect is extremely judgemental. I would agree that depending on the situation and approach it might be neglectful.... however, I consider myself a super attentive mother. I am not afraid to say that i resorted to the modified Ferber method when my child was struggling to self soothe at 11 months. I am a highly educated occupational therapist and sought advice from my pediatrician, other moms, and researched scholarly articles. My baby girl now sleeps through the night. If she cries out in a way that that implies she is in pain i go in and comfort her at all cost. I'm still nursing and all I feed her is organic food. So the word "neglect" is an extremely ignorant term to use

@Dianna so if you consider what neglect means “a form of abuse that occurs when someone responsible for caring for a child or other person fails to meet their needs.” Babies cry because they are trying to communicate their needs, as they cannot communicate any way. Babies do not cry for no reason. If you’ve decided that you’re only going to meet that child’s needs during the day and not during the night, despite them crying for you. That is neglect. I’m not going to sugar coat or play word salad to stroke your feelings. Just because you don’t like the sound of it, doesn’t mean it’s judgmental. I am stating facts.

@Robyn I'm a big girl and I don't know you from a hole in the wall so your words will not and cannot affect me emotionally. You seem to have very strong feelings about the CIO method and I'm not even mad about it because that was me at one point, until I did my research and tried it with my extremely happy baby girl. Don't regret it one bit. We are entitled to our opinions no matter how offensive they may be I suppose. To call a mother seeking advice abusive is rather disturbing but if it makes you feel good about yourself have at it

@Dianna There’s a difference between saying something is neglect and someone is neglectful. No insinuation to say the OP is neglectful. But to note that the practice is neglectful. I mean if you throw enough money at medical they will tell you what you want in your country. 🤷‍♀️

We did CIO but I think it was called something else. We just increased the time we let Bub cry. First was 1 minute before we would console him (before timing it we didn’t even realise we weren’t letting him cry for even a minute!) then it went to 2 minutes which was torture. And slowly increasing that time as he got older. We started at 8 months at 1/2 mins and went to 10 mins at 1 year old. We never went past 10 mins and he eventually settled within 10 mins. He’s two now and it’s still the same. If you want more info PM me. I wouldn’t say this was CIO more of a sleep training as Bub woke every 2 hours from birth to 7 months wanting a feed and I was able to slowly push that out

@jess what you did was a modified or gentle version of the Ferber method not CIO. CIO is where a baby is put to bed drowsy and left to cry on their own until they fall asleep; without parental intervention. The Ferber Method is where the baby is put to bed drowsy and then you let them cry for timed intervals and do quick check ins to let them know you're there but enforcing the boundary of sleep. We did a modified version of the Ferber method at 7 months and my LO has been able to sleep great and it also taught her to self soothe. My LO did not do well with gentler forms of sleep training as they were too stimulating.

@Sarah yeah ok thanks for clarifying! Whatever we did was a god send and has taught us (as well as our now toddler) to self settle. Glad it worked for you too!

@Dianna so you didn’t use CIO then?!

@Gilly I used a modified ferber method which is still considered a form of CIO just a more gentle one

Cry it out - is literally / leave them crying. Either they stop or they’re so exhausted they fall asleep?

There’s the difference. “Right away.” Instead of “not at all”

@Gilly true... that's why it's called a modified version of it... either way, I am glad it worked for my family and most importantly for my little one

I’m glad for you too. But Ferber method isnt the CIO method. X

@Gilly it is a version of it. But we could go back and forth all day and I have to go to work lol