Depressed partner

Does he take any antidepressants or have any form of talking therapy? x

He definitely does taking therapy, and he was on antidepressants but I'm not sure if he's still taking them! Thank u I will ask him xxx

Maybe see what other support he needs? if he has baby all day then maybe he needs an outlet later on like the gym to help him etc x

Thank you @Louise I really appreciate your ideas, I've just been feeling so lost about where to start with supporting him!

I totally agree with therapy, my husband suffers with depression but thankfully our kids have changed and helped how he deals with it, full days with a baby could be stressful, ( we all find it stressful at some point) id just worry about that adding to what he's going through. You also need to look after yourself, it's a lot for you to have to worry about. X

As someone who has just been through 2 years of hell with my suicidal best friend I would be concerned tbh. He needs to see the doctor as a matter of urgency, explain how he is feeling and that he will be looking after a baby on his own. This sounds like a safeguarding issue to me and I would hope the doctor would take it seriously. If he has been or gets prescribed meds he needs to take them. Therapy is good but only at the right time and it takes time to work and learn the techniques, medication is the quickest option. Whilst I am sure he absolutely loves your baby and would never even think about hurting them, as you know it can be incredibly stressful and if he is having a bad day he could react badly. Sorry I don’t want to panic you or anything but I really think this needs to be taken very seriously and based on my own experience I would never let someone seriously suicidal look after my baby (but only you can judge how serious he is). Here to chat if you need to xx

Thank you @Steph this is definitely my worry....the sound of the baby crying is definitely a trigger for him and I don't know how he would react if he was on his own....also worried that saying he can't look after the baby will make his depression worse...😬

Thank you all for replying, it really is so helpful x

I understand you’re worried about his reaction but try to think of it like this as it might make you feel less guilty. He is a grown man who needs to take responsibility for his life, your baby is vulnerable and needs full on support. If you tell him you will only let him look after the baby if he gets the help he needs and he doesn’t reach out for help, that is his decision xx

Thank you 💖