I am just breaking down

I’m so sorry to hear this mama 😔 that sounds so hard. You are so strong ❤️

I absolutely hate that for you hun. You are welcome to hit me up in message if you just wanna vent. I don't know where you are but I can send virtual hugs. The past year has definitely been one for the books on this end but one second at a time.

You’re not alone. 💜 it gets easier. But, it does take time. Be kind to yourself. Lower expectations of the 1 year old. Set up a plan with your partner as to when he will help or do XYZ. Give a safe word that means you are struggling and need help NOW. Sending you positivity mama

So sorry you’re feeling this way 💔 Love Gilly’s advice! Also, if it’s any consolation, parenting a toddler and a newborn is WAY better than parenting a toddler while pregnant! Still a challenge but at least you can move 😅 Sending solidarity your way! 

I feel you am literally nearly breaking down and I thought I was the only one. I got a toddler (he will be 3 next month) and a newborn 8 weeks old. My toddler is surely hyperactive-he doesn’t stop! It’s absolutely draining. Plus the newborn; my husband helps but I seem to moan and cry about soo much work and stress I go through with my toddler. Am 40 now and I really missed all those days when I would just get up and go to the gym and then work. For my mental health I am heading back to the gym in a week once I get the ok this week from the dr! Mentally that will help as I also got Post natal depression. You aren’t alone feeling this way! Try to do something that makes you happy I would say and don’t be afraid to ask your husband to help more!! Hugs

Thank you for your kind words everyone who supported me. 🙏 I was looking after my first daughter mainly alone , her father helped me just few nights but other time he was in a deep sleep. I don't remember how I woke up to feed and change her...maybe because I always had a very bad sleep this part was okay in the beginning...but after sleep deprivation hit me....anyway I did a lot alone , and since my second pregnancy being on last trimester, basically just few more weeks left..I became super exhausted physicaly...I still have to do all home tasks, plus my depression came back...I am to be honest terrified..I am also nearly 40, and ofcourse have much less energy

Sounds really weird but 16-24 months is the ideal age to have a 2nd child for a 1st born sibling!! It's hard now, but she will calm right down once you go into infant mode. Dad sounds like he needs to get his shit together- it's gonna be hard. It's not easy. You have a tantrum throwing toddler right now & you need him to meet you halfway. Write him a letter and stand your ground. Tell him you feel broken & need him now.

@Lauren I agree with you this age much better then 10 -12 months , but all toddlers are different...my baby very emotional, I go to group often and see other toddlers her age and many often I never saw crying...they play, look independent...but mine will cry seriously without a reason, often this cry without tears just for attention...this part is the hardest for me, if she could cry less I assume It would be much easier..

Rough , I had closer age gap 15 months. It was hell hard but also not much help and he heavy sleeper and never took time off. I was nursing. They both boys and play tiegether and I thought by age 4 they be okay. They fight lot and play too but crying and screaming and fighting over toys or he looks at me and stick tongue me or he pushed me and touched me or won't play w me and then they push each other...we try go out often andnu i get exhausted. Dad isn't a hugger , much. Not for boys but can't stop. Hugging our girl baby. Dies anyone scream in house or is always stressed out and you think maybe she sees it or she more of an. Annoyance and you been tired lot ,since she was born? Kids pick up on it, and some are highly sensitive and emotional and having that feeling of being a burden/ ignored / not enough outdoor play etc does that. Some ppl have 1 kid but don't really do. Much w kid, don't play together, they watch TV or have lot toys.. and some are spoiled by one parent or grandparents etc.

@Ali actually it makes sense. Her father often says that she took this behaviour from me, from watching me...I have to admit, I cry often and she sees me...when I talk to my partner I can break in tears easy because he is so stubborn and does not understand how much job I have on me. I am very sensitive, I cry from any small situation and I really don't like this is me...but is hard to change :((

@Ali being a mum, you have to be strong , is always on my mind, but I feel myself so weak...is coming from my childhood...I am always worried I can't protect my child and there are so many nastiness around