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What you're feeling is completely normal so definitely don't feel like you're doing or not doing anything right. If Dad is telling you to get out of the house and he will watch her, definitely take him up on that. It's important for a lot of reasons, it allows him bonding time, time to understand what your days are like alone with her and it most importantly is time that you can relax knowing she's with dad. Start small, go out for an hours or less if you need to. Even if it's just going to fill the car tank, grabbing a coffee or grocery shopping. Having some time to resume normal day-to-day tasks will help you regulate, prevent PPD and empower you. I say do it! To your comfort level of course because that's what's most important for you right now. Hang in there mama!
Thank you ladies! This was exactly what I needed to hear! 😭
I’ve been dealing with the same thing. @@Nathaliegreat words
This is so normal. I didn’t like to leave my baby until she was about 2. You should do little but here and there when you feel ready for your own sake - like have someone take her on a long stroller walk, or go get a pedicure, etc. but at only a month old there’s no rush yet.
Ladies, you don’t have to go out without your baby! Your hormones are not wired for this. You should do what you feel comfortable with 🩶 The time comes where you want to have some time for yourself
Totally normal! Just take baby steps when you're really ready and the 1st 10...maybe 20 times out of the house, expect to feel this way (ask me how I know🤣😅) What helped me was "mini trips" out of the house to basically build up to longer trips out of the house. I would wait until my daughter fell asleep (because that meant she would be asleep for 1-2 hours) and I would get my headphones, a snack, sometimes wine 🍷 and walk around the neighborhood or a nearby park. Do my best to keep myself distracted (this is actually how I started bird watching) and I would set a timer to not check my phone for a hour, check in (usually baby was still asleep) and then I'd spend another 30 mins or hour walking, listening to music, or reading a book at the park. I did this for a few times until those anxious tendencies slowly decreased. And my Husband was really good about reassuring me that everything was fine or once in a blue moon when baby needed me, he was very good about communicating that with me and that helped me.
Give yourself grace. It will get easier! And until then, bring her with you if you want! Try not to get down on yourself for wanting to be near her - she just was literally a part of you for nine months! Hormones are very influential. I promise time will pass and you will start to feel more comfortable.