MIL is obsessed with who baby looks like
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It’s so funny how grandparents obsess over this, and it sounds like probably harmless envy/attention seeking 😆 they really do go googoogaga with our bubs dont they! My mum has been coming out with all sorts like she can see her own dad in my 3 month old daughter… like, what?? Maybe there’s something energetically at play, or maybe they just enjoy it. I don’t see it myself beyond her looking partly like me and partly like my partner! The funniest is saying they’ve got people’s noses… aren’t all babies noses like little buttons at this point?! So funny 😹
I’m glad you can laugh it off, but it sounds like she’s upset that the baby isn’t a carbon copy of your husband (and her by association). Everyone in my life agrees that my son looks so much like my husband, but a few people in my family try to find features from my side. Which is cute, but at least they’re not trying to ignore that my son is clearly my husband’s mini me!
@Katie my mom says she sees a bit of her dad which i have also said before. But she has never ignored that my son looks like me. Atp i just ignore mil when she says somethings 🤣.
@Elyssa i honestly think she is! Its so laughable honestly, its the fact she said he looks like her daughter (sil) 😂 Lol hopefully she can get over it soon cause this boy aint changing his looks.
As a boy mom (until my LG makes it earth side!) I never understood this 🥴🤣 when my sons have wives/partners, babies, etc. my only concern will be that they’re fit for the job and pulling their weight! Don’t get sent back packing to me buddy! I have no stake in their kids looking like them or me. So weird!
My husbands family are the same saying that my 5 month old daughter looks like my other son and not like me and they both look like my husband but everyone my side says she's my double. It really bothers me.
I really done a double take reading this. For a second I thought I'd written this and not realised! Glad it isn't just me that has a MIL like this. My family and my husband go on how my daughter looks like me and past members of my family. My MIL only says how she has my chin and looks so much like her daughter (husbands sister) and my husband. I really see a strong resemblance to my husband, which I love. But I don't see it when I've seen other family member pictures at a younger age. I do sometimes find it upsetting because I stop seeing the resemblance between my daughter and myself. I wish I had some advice to offer. I do understand your frustration though! ❤️
My little one looks like my partner but also looks like my nieces when they where little (my brothers kids). MIL is obsessed with telling me how much he looks like my partner and brings it up at any given opportunity. At this point I just laugh cause I know she's doing it to wind me up even though I have agreed with her that he does look like his daddy!
My MIL said my daughter looks like my BIL. My daughter face has changed quite a bit in 8 months, where she has looked like me more or my husband more. But she will compare each time with my bil and that makes me mad lol.
@Nika Right?! It’s such a strange thing to fixate on! I’m with you—when my son grows up, my only focus will be that he’s a good partner and parent, not whose features the baby has. The idea of obsessing over it feels so unnecessary. As long as everyone’s happy and healthy, that’s what matters!
@Beckie I totally get how you feel—it can be so frustrating! It’s like they’re deliberately trying to ignore that your daughter could resemble you. It’s even more annoying when your side of the family can clearly see the resemblance. At the end of the day, she’s a mix of both of you, but it’s natural to want to see yourself in your own child too. You’re not alone in feeling bothered by it!
@Liz Wow, it sounds like we’re living the same experience! It’s comforting to know I’m not the only one dealing with this. I completely get what you mean about it being upsetting—it’s hard when people’s comments make you second-guess the resemblance you see between yourself and your child. At the end of the day, though, we know our babies are a mix of both sides, no matter what anyone says. And honestly, what matters most is the love we pour into them, not who they resemble more. Sending hugs—it’s definitely frustrating, but you’re not alone in this! ❤️
@Bobbie-lee It’s like they can’t help themselves, isn’t it? Even when you agree with them, they still feel the need to hammer it home! Gosh!Sometimes it really does feel like they’re trying to get a reaction. Laughing it off is definitely the best way to handle it—I try to do the same now. At the end of the day, we know our little ones are a perfect mix, whether they admit it or not!
@Deval Ugh, I totally get why that would make you mad! It’s so frustrating when they keep comparing your baby to someone else, especially when you can see your daughter looking like you or your husband at different stages. It’s almost like they’re determined to make their own narrative stick. Babies change so much as they grow—it’s only natural to see different resemblances. But why the constant BIL comparison? That would drive me up the wall too!
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My family doesn't obsess over it, but my daughter is my twin. She has only a few things from her father, but other than that, she's just like me.
Omg mine did this too!!! When there were features that were pointed out that look like me such as his eyes (my husbands are blue and mine are brown so you can’t really argue against it) she was like well your (my husband’s) great grandfather in your dad’s side has eyes like that… trying wayyy to hard for him to not look like me
Yes. My MIL wouldn’t admit that my son looks like my husband.