I went to pick my baby up from nursery and her key worker said she’s been crying and sad all day. This is so hard to hear. I wasn’t informed at all. She’s usually so bubbly and happy. I’m so upset with the non helpful handover.

I’m so sorry! I’m not sure how it works but I’d expect a text or call during the day just to let you know that way you could’ve made a decision if you wanted to pick her up early or not!

When you take her back I'd just let them know that if she's like that in the future you'd like to be informed 😊

I don’t hear off my childminder unless it’s urgent as I trust her to be able to manage him. He’s going through sleep regression at the minute and she said yesterday when I picked him up he resisted his nap and cried for a while and then went down. You have to trust they know what they’re doing and dealing with an upset child is part of their job. If you go running every time they’re upset they’ll learn that as soon as they cry for any length of time you’ll give into them and you’ll end up with a clingy child and not be able to do anything for yourself

Sorry but I think it’s unreasonable to expect contact during the day just to tell you your child is sad. If they are poorly or injured etc then sure… can you leave work to go pick up your child who is sad? Most employers would not see that as a reasonable time to leave work anyway so what is the point in knowing until pick up time. I’d just spend the day at work stressed knowing my child is sad but can’t go pick them up as I need to work and get paid to live

I would want to know and I would go pick him up - but I have a very flexible arrangement with work and my hours that I'm extremely grateful for. Even then, I'd only want to know if they've spent a decent amount of time trying whatever they can, or if he's crying until being sick or struggling breathing or some other tangible discomfort. Sometimes babies have off days where nothing is good enough, whether at home or in nursery. I know you're sad for your baby but there's only so much you can do.