in December 2024 Babies 🇬🇧

Overwhelmed by friends

Rant. - Is anyone else feeling completely and utterly overwhelmed by friends wanting to come visit you. My baby is 9 days old and my close family have come to see me. - which im totally fine with and happy with- but I’m not ready to be around friends when I still feel a bit rubbish. My stitches have only just started to feel better. I’m trying to navigate combination feeding and newborn constipation. And obviously a new sleep routine 😅 and my friends have made it like a competition of who sees my baby first. Constantly messaging me dates that they’re free. I called someone to help me jump start my car the other day to take my baby to the doctors. And my other friend got really annoyed with me about it because I didn’t call them. I burst into tears. It’s really ruining the newborn experience for me. I hate that my daughter has been made into a thing to be jealous over and a competition. Makes me want non of them to come and see her. I feel like I also may just be over reacting 😅

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My wee one is 4 weeks old and I still feel like this!! The pressure is less now but at the start it was the same, suggesting days to come visit and being really persistent on it - I had stitches too and was struggling to move / eat / sleep so I couldn’t ever guarantee I’d feel up to it on a certain day😅 we just told everyone we were waiting until we found our feet and would let them know when we were ready. It worked for most but a few we ended up just giving in to. I agree it was a bit of a cloud over the whole newborn baby bubble

I told everyone I need time while I will recover and people can meet my daughter when I feel ready to see people .. she’s 3 weeks 4 days my friends still haven’t met her yet. I straight out said it people have respected it. Tell them you’re overwhelmed and need space if they don’t respect that then don’t give them the time. You only get this time once and enjoy it how you want to with your baby!

I completely agree with both comments above however one thing that might help is when you are ready for your friends to come you do it on your terms so you give them all the same date and time! That way you can get everyone in and out and your not having multiple visits and there's no arguing about who's got to meet her first as theuve all been given the same opportunity! X

I had this with my first and was guilted into a lot of people coming around before I was ready, my house felt like a revolving door of people in and out and some of these people didn’t even speak to on a daily basis or a monthly basis for that matter, I just wanted all the messages to stop and the phone calls and pestering so I eventually caved and let them in, but once they had been and gone I got to enjoy my bubble a little more as I didn’t have it hanging over me that people were just waiting, I’ve just had my second baby she’s 22 days old and there’s been 5 friends come to visit so far, but I’ve not had messages or phone calls from anyone wanting to see her this time around, apparently second babies aren’t as exciting as the firsts🙄 it has left me feeling very lonely as my partner has gone back to work and I’ve not even had a text from some of the people I deemed an important part of my life

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