Hospital/Birth Question 🏨
The whole pregnancy my BD has made it difficult, He completely ruined my mental health.. He's immature for his age and doesn't want to take responsibility for anything. Everything that has been bought for my little girl has been from me and my mum not just that, I'm the one who's paying all the bills and he's just living at my place rent free. I've tried communicating with him multiple times about this but no use.. All appointments or runs to the triage, I've been there alone and the rare trip to the hospital he's been there but when he has it's just him stressing me out and yelling at me.. I'm honestly considering not having him at the birth, But I'm just wondering is this something I can do? If he turns up will they escort him out. This is my first child and I just know that he's going to be there mentally going at me.. I don't know, Kind of stuck. This is one of the reasons he won't be going on the birth certificate.
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Midwife can refer you to the safeguard team and home visitors are very supportive with this. Reach out and speak with them 🤍🫶
You can decide not to have him there! You need someone supportive x
Don’t tell him you’re in labour. Make sure your birthing partner knows he’s not allowed and mention it to the midwife. They won’t allow someone in who’s not supposed to be there. From the sounds of it though I’d have him out before a baby is even on the scene your life will only get harder with a baby involved not easier xx
Thank you ladies, I appreciate your comments đź©·
The hospital won’t allow anyone in without your permission so just let them know.
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Your birth, your choice. Just because he’s the dad doesn’t mean he’s entitled to be there when he is born. Childbirth is hard, physically and mentally. You pick the people who are going to be most supportive and helpful to have in the room with you to help get you through, nothing less.