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I think it may be a generational thing that they just need to have an opinion because I'm sure their parents gave them unsolicited advice too
@Naomi yeah you’re probably right but you’d think if it happened to them they’d know how it’d feel and they wouldn’t continue doing it themselves!!
I’m so sorry she’s being like that! Defo not needed. I’m also an anxious FTM and I aswell cover my LO’s hands when he’s tired because when I didn’t he really badly scratched his face right by his eye😔I’ve decided to invest in an electric nail trimmer because he fights me when I try to sort his nails out You absolutely are doing the right things and you are good enough! You know your baby better than anyone else, try to ignore her, they just can’t help themselves x
@Rosie my girl did that too and the screams were awful, I’ve learnt my lesson now!! We’ve got one too and they’re a lifesaver aren’t they, I try and do it when my husband is feeding her so she’s distracted too haha. Thank you so much lovely x
My MIL was about the same when I had my first one. Eventually I had enough and just stopped going to hers with my wee one, she only see my girls now when their dad is home with me or if he takes her over MIL’s house. She was just getting too much,especially with all other things I have going on in my life 😊 also to add she was constantly complaining how much she misses her grandkids, yet never came to visit them herself 🤭
My MIL is EXACTLY the same x
@Loreta glad you stood up for yourself and your babies! Exactly, we have enough going on, nevermind with constant judgement from others, especially someone who’s supposed to be family. My MIL is exactly the same about saying she misses seeing her yet she has been over our house once since my little girl was born 4 months ago. Me and my husband have spoken about it and he’s even agreed that if people want to see her, they can come to us. We’ve been doing the rounds making sure everyone gets to see her often but there are a few people who it’s just not reciprocated from. It’s definitely true that being pregnant and having a baby makes you realise who’s really there for you! x
It’s like they trying to make us feel guilty they don’t come round to see their grandkids. I told my MIL if you want to see them you can come any time ,don’t expect me to invite you over 😅 the sad thing is that my mum is exactly the same, she’s only been to my house like 5 times over the past 4 years and 4 of them was by invitation but at least she doesn’t complain she missed us!🤣
I actually understand this 100%! I can’t speak for everyone but from my experience, if you generally don’t have an issue with your mil and she does this- she might actually not be aware that she’s doing this or how it’s making you feel. I feel like this older generation has a thing for wanting to prove that they know absolutely everything and we know nothing even though times have changed. My mil is very similar to this except she doesn’t do it to be rude, she isn’t a rude person and she honestly thinks she’s doing me a favour giving me unsolicited advice. I’ve learnt to smile and ignore it or if it’s genuine and will benefit me then I’ll take it on board. I truly believe this is a generational thing x just ignore it , smile and be polite and continue to do your own thing
Yupppp drives me nuts. I have an almost 2 y/o as well so I’ve just gotten used to it by now because it’s never going to stop. I just laugh at it sometimes now
@Loreta Similar here! My MIL insisted on watching my toddler once a week so we dropped his nursery days from 5 to 4. Not only the rude comments but the amount of times I had to take off work because she ended up not being able to come! 🤬 Needless to say he’s going back up to full time nursery and she doesn’t get to watch him Wednesdays anymore. She’s definitely voicing her displeasure over it
I honestly feel like they can't help themselves. I just try to let it go over my head and ignore... easier said than done xx