Is it normal to experience SAHM guilt or embarrassment?

I’ve always known I wanted to be a SAHM down the line, but I wasn’t expecting it to happen so soon. For some back story, I left my job a few months before getting married. It was an extremely toxic environment and it just seemed like the right time to take a break and enjoy my engagement / wedding. So I took time off before the wedding with the plan to start looking for a new job after we were settled in married life. Well…just about 8 weeks into marriage and my new job hunt I found out I was pregnant. I was completely shocked as it was unexpected but so happy because deep down all I wanted was to be a mom! My husband and I decided for me to stay at home and focus on the pregnancy/ preparing for the baby. However, I’ve been having a ton of guilt surrounding it. I feel like all the women in my life are off doing amazing things in the careers, while also becoming mothers. I sometimes feel like I’m not as strong of a woman which I realize is crazy! I know I want to be a SAHM but part of me feels like I threw away a degree and a career even though those things didn’t even make me happy. It’s just a weird mix of emotions! Has anyone else experienced this? By the way, my husband is 100% supportive either way! This is completely my choice.

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I’d say to enjoy the time that you have at home, and if you feel like you should put your degree/career to use, either look at starting your own business or for part time roles once you feel ready! There’s so much pressure on us as women to have to have a career and to be a mum, but we have the option to chose nowadays which is lovely!

Hey mama, Congratulations! To answer ur ?; YES it’s normal to experience SAHM guilt & embarrassment. :) Bt u also need to know try to figure out were those feelings are coming from & heal from them. In the end all a mother wants to do is “enjoy” their journey in the best way possible, so u need to figure out wat that’s going to look like for u & stand on business! So if u choose to be a working mom just know ppl will judge, bt ask urself if u will be fulfilled? And if u choose to be a SAHM, just know u will be judged, bt ask ur self if u will be fulfilled? Basically what I’m trying to say is; the journey is abt YOU & doing what u feel is best for u & ur little family. U already have a very supportive partner so he will support u either way & that’s ur tru cheerleader! Cuz he is not “judging” u for ur decisions & he is supporting u. Surround urself with ppl who support ur journey :)

I know as u mentioned , “u always wanted to be a SAHM bt it just happened a little sooner than expected” so I think that’s affecting how u view ur choices at the moment. So I jus wanna tell u that no matter what happens or what u choose, every moment in motherhood is temporary & it’s okay to mourn ur old life bt still be completely happy with ur new one. Don’t compare ur journey to other women cuz u have no idea what other women are going thru. Women love to glamorize womanhood especiallly motherhood, bt motherhood is filled with so many emotions! So always give ur self some Grace & know ur doing the best that u can do. Lastly, ur degree is never going anywhere & u did not throw it away! Not only are an example for ur Ur child bt they are going to grow up & have their own lives & no matter what happens no1 can take ur education away.

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