Struggling with self confidence and trust
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I feel similarly- I’m second guessing everything I do and I just feel like maternity is not for me. I’m bonding very well with my baby and he is easy but everything else is just hard. I feel like I can’t talk to my husband and ask for his help - he seems to still be in his « old life » mindset so I take a lot on my shoulders and sometimes I’m just torn between not wanting to talk to him or spend hours in his arms because I need the comfort.
It’s so hard. I think I had to have at least maybe 3-4 convos for my husband to understand which is already tough to do when you’re feeling that way. But ultimately they just need to understand what your needs and his are may be different and you need him to show up for you differently than he would need it from you. He wanted to solve when I just wanted him to be there.
Was he distant with your baby too? My husband doesn’t take care of him - he doesn’t do bath time with us, or play time or if he doesn’t he’s not playing with the baby he’s just on his phone. He doesn’t change if (clothes or diapers) or when he wakes up/ comes back from work he just ignores him. I just don’t know how to address that to him.
@Marine he’s very involved with the baby, sometimes I have to ask him for help cus he’s lazy and tired from work but he’s always trying to help. So on that I can’t complain much
I’m with you, so you’re not alone in this. I started to feel the same around the 5 month mark until the 7 mark month with my little one. Where I only had the energy to be there for her but nothing else. I was able to get better from it by honestly talking to my husband and telling him what I need from him and help him understand the best he could so it made me feel less alone. I also picked up going on more walks, listening to some meditation and affirmation podcast, journaling and doing crafts again which helped me get past it. Obviously a little at a time. When you’re feeling this way, my best advice is to be kind to yourself and remember everything is temporary and it’ll pass.