Potty training and nursery

Don’t go back to nappies once you’ve started (except for sleep). We went straight to pants (boxer style). First two days he didn’t even make the potty once but by day 9 he goes without prompting 90% of the time. We do have some Bambino Mio potty pantys for if we’re going further afield. What was the reason you decided to start today rather than Wednesday? Nursery will follow your lead generally. X

We’re about 2 weeks into potty training. We started naked at home for 3-4 days so that if he needed the potty he could go as quickly as possible. Then we went to trousers only (no pants or nappies). I heard that it’s best to avoid pants for around 4 weeks, or until they’ve mastered doing a poo on the potty, because pants feel similar to a nappy. Nursery was fine with him just wearing trousers. We chatted to his key worker about it first to make sure she was OK with it / see if she had any suggestions.

My daughter learnt over a weekend, basically self trained and then had to wear pants for the first time to nursery. She goes 4 days so it’s a bit different, but we never went back to nappies. It was a bit scary at first and there were accidents but she adjusted really quickly x

@Cal I am off today so have a long weekend and the weather has been awful so with us not going anywhere anyway I thought it would be a good time to start! He is usually with my mother in-law on Thursdays as I work and although I am off on Wednesdays we had a bit of a busy day this Wednesday so it wasn't a good time x

Thanks everyone for the advice! I'm just going to brave no nappies on Monday and Tuesday next week and see how he goes 😬 I think first time round I gave up too quickly so just need to go all in and he will eventually get it x

Just out of curiosity did they have many accidents in nursery whilst they were learning and was there any resistance to using the potty? X

Yes @Ellie 💪🏼 go for it! He will do fine at nursery. We haven’t had any accidents at nursery at all so far. I think it helps being around other kids who use the potty/toilet

@Ellie quite a few accidents the first day as she had to ask to go potty where at home she had no pants and potty was always in the room. It got less and less and by the second week she had no accidents. Even though she was confidently using the potty at home prior to wearing pants at school, she was very scared and panicky that week and had accidents at home too because she was acting scared around the potty but then back to herself the following week using it when needed or asking.

Mine learnt over a weekend, we kept her off nursery one extra day and then she did sort of half a day the next day and then went back full time, so she had 3.5 days of potty training at home and then back to nursery. She went a couple of weeks at nursery without a single accident straight after our potty training weekend, then she had a few we think because she was poorly and wasn’t feeling herself, now she has occasional accidents but she’s pretty reliable.

Yes don’t confuse - no nappies going forwards save for lunchtime nap and bedtime. Nursery will carry on for you. I disagree with the no pants thing. My little boy hated the feeling of being wet in pants which helped with training (we did no bottoms first two days and he literally would wee legs open so it didn’t touch his legs 😂) Nursery he was fine - we pre planned between us when we were going to start (so didn’t spring it on them!) and there were 3 of them that would go potty together 🥹🥹 too cute!!! Get a travel potty - the penguin from JL is perfect for on the go Stickers, potty books, lots of praise. Fun jazzy pants. Get very excited when a wee or poo goes in the potty. My LO loves to call people to show them who in turn jump up and down and clap 😂😂 it’s a team effort!!! We started on his 2 bday and 6 weeks on he takes himself off now to go and can pull his bottoms down It’s a slog for sure but if you are committed they will get it

Did anyone else's LO go through a stage where they would hold in their pee and end up having a huge pee on the floor? I have been trying to prompt him when I feel like he hasn't been for a while but he just says he doesn't need to go and I don't want to over prompt him or be too pushy as I feel like that was the mistake I made first time around

@Ellie we get that sometimes. Usually when he’s enjoying what he’s doing.

@Ellie yes. My daughter did this after she used a potty with no issues for 3 days straight. It was a slight regression when she wore pants to nursery for the first time and then she got back in to it after about a week but it was v stressful for all of us because it made her scared and also said she didn’t need to go when she clearly did. Also does this when she needed a poo and was holding that in.

@Jess just curious, what did you do to encourage her to use the potty and help her not to feel scared? I got my little boy enthusiastic about using the potty the first day and it was looking positive, but now he just has no interest at all 🙃 the same thing happened on the first attempt and I just decided to leave it for a month and come back to it but he's so strong willed when he decides he doesn't want to do something

@Ellie she first went through it before she was ready, so we just took a complete break. The second time she had been using the potty fine and without reminder for 3 days so I didn’t see the point of putting her back in nappies. We just continued through the accidents, supported and reminded her to use the potty. If she said no, we didn’t force. Still sent her in pants to school and hyped her up being in pants and no nappy. The next week she had days after nursery were she was a little worried, but by the following week she was 100%. We are still getting used to 💩 which she holds in until the last min but is fine with wees. I think it’s such a scary, big change it can be normal even when they are ready and was in my experience x Yeah they are so strong willed!! X But I know it is awful. I found it really stressful for all of us, but luckily it was short lived

We just started sending her without nappy last week and so far so good. She was “potty trained” way before she started nursery but once she started she went back on nappies, she refused to use the toilet, I guess she was adjusting, she also does 2 full days