Feeling let down

Does anyone else feel a bit let down by their parents? My parents promised me they’d be there and help me after I had my baby (I never asked them for any help mind you) however they’ve totally gone back on this now. We are lucky if we see my parents once every month or two. Baby cries if they hold her and they get really arsey and say she’s clingy even though she’s totally fine with my partners mum who sees her every week. My mum was supposed to take us to lunch today but messaged an hour before to say she couldn’t as she had a lot on. It really annoyed me as I had arranged babies nap times around going out and had packed up, got us dressed nicely etc. as she comments if we aren’t in nice outfits with my make up done. I feel bad for complaining as I know some people have no support at all but I just really thought they’d want to be more involved in her life. She’s the first and likely only grandchild as I’m an only child and the first girl in our family since I was born 30 years ago. Just feel a bit down about it all!

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you have every right to feel like that. seems like your parents don’t really respect your time at all. im sorry that’s happened to you 🫤

Sorry this is happening to you.Your feelings are perfectly valid and I would also feel very sad if I were in your situation. Is an open and honest conversation possible? Your mum did let you down today after promising to meet up.I would try and address it if possible

I know how you feel… so sucky. And it hurts more because they are our parents and grandparents to our child. Not only does it hurt me, I hurt for my son. He will never be able to look back on great memories with his grandparents since they were mostly absent. I do think it’s worth making your point to your mom otherwise there’s not even a slight chance for improvement. I’m sorry for you. You are not alone. Hope your in laws at least stay close and helpful!

I hear you and I don’t mean to overshare but my dad committed suicide 4 days before I gave birth and it’s been so hard to process because our parents are supposed to be there for us as we are their children . My dad’s gone he’s never gonna hold his grand baby and my son will never know who he’s named after .. your family should make so much more of an effort they don’t realize how lucky they are to be in ur child’s life first of all and the fact it’s the first grand baby IS a big deal!! I’m sorry ur dealing with this . I wish I had the chance to get upset at my dad for doing stuff but he beat me to it and gave me no chance but to feel awful for him and wonder what went wrong

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