Natural consequences parenting

I’m genuinely curious about this approach to parenting. Can someone who does it please give me more info like: What do you do if you’re in a rush and need to get out of the house? What do you do if your child wants another chocolate bar or wants cake instead of actual meals? What do you do if your child refuses to wear a coat and its bloody freezing outside? I want to hear success stories because I can’t figure out how this would work to raise a decent child. Surely it would make the child spoiled and get the child used to having their own way? No judgement, I’m just genuinely curious about this approach to parenting

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You’ll find that people generally do a mix of parenting styles. When it comes to coats we do Natural Consequences (without knowing that’s what it was). He generally realises when he opens the front door if he does actually want it on. Re food. If you’ve never introduced them to chocolate or cake then that’s unlikely to happen (at a young age anyway) plus the natural consequence would likely be: “This is the meal I’ve made for the family. I’m not making another.” (Therefore the consequence being hunger?) Even people who do Natural Consequence parenting would still have things that were none negotiable. ie Wearing a seatbelt etc. The idea being to let them learn as much as possible themselves, as long as there’s not a huge danger element to it.

Everyone is different but only speaking from my experience. If in a rush I ask her once to hurry up as we will be late etc. if she doesn’t listen I just pick her up and get her in the car crying or not I have places to be she will get over it lol Regarding chocolate and cake it’s difficult after Christmas as the poor kids have been allowed choc at breakfast and advent calendars but now it is just no if it is on top of dinner. I explain if she eats all her dinner she can have some cake or choc but not until. Again if she cries just move on she will get over that also lol Coat. If she doesn’t want to wear it who am I to force her to wear it. Like the lady above said once they are stood outside they soon realise that it’s cold. I don’t have much problem with coats not going on she hasn’t really started saying no but I always incorporate it with mummy putting it on and make a game and see who can put coat on the quickest. I always give options and let her establish what is best xx

I work on the 123 basis. I'll tell you once, tell you twice and third time we do it my way anyway. I explain why and give him a countdown from ten on the second ask but we have to do what we have to do. As for choc, it's one piece as long as it's not near meal time and don't bother asking for a other cos I will just let you cry or offer you something you can have like a apple and walk away.

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