Any single mothers with little to no support system

I have no support at all My son has never even been left either anyone ever my parents live abroad and my friends and family are in various different locations but nobody has stepped up to be in our lives because they are all busy either their own I go to playgroup and I feel so alone It’s mostly granny’s and I just wish I had that kind of support I’m so tired I love my son more than anything but this is hard there’s no doubt about it And the worst thing is I feel sad for my boy He deserves better :/ But I guess we just have to find peace either way and be strong for them and do our best x sorry if not helpful but sending solidarity and hugs

@Khyla I feel you on this I love my son so much but it’s overwhelming sometimes bcos we’re doing a two person job alone 😔 I’ve got to a point where the two people that clearly don’t want to help, it’s like I don’t feel it’s a healthy environment to leave him as they make it obvious they don’t want to help us or they’ll purposefully ruin his routine or not change his nappy. so I’ve gotten to a point I will be in the same boat and that’s why I’ve posted this bcos I was struggling even when they would have him, which would only be for 2 hours a week so it won’t make much difference. I’ve noticed by family I get made to feel like mothers don’t deserve a break so anytime it came to me asking for one it was clear they didn’t want to help me I’m over it now.

Yh I hear you, people who don’t actually want to help I would not want to leave my child with !

Better just to suck it up and do this thing alone

I’ve recently gotten back in contact with my sister but she’s moving in 2wks. Before that I had no support, even in my relationship. It’s hard, I try to get out a lot with my 2 boys, soft play/library/parent groups/play groups and play grounds. My two boys are 3 in April & 2 in June. I’m also expecting a baby girl next month so it’s only about to be more crazy. But my parents don’t even know I have kids and will never be a part of their lives. As hard as it is I know it’s better for us this way and every day I find something positive to focus on ❤️ sending you love mamas

@Khyla it’s annoying bcos it’s his grandparents but they make it soo clear it’s like an argument as I leave and come back so it’s no more now

@Khyla I’ve also tried the playgroups but I feel it’s not the same as my son kinda sticks around me regardless. My only mum friend live kinda far too so I don’t see her much. Hope both of us one day build a village for our kids but it seems impossible 😂

Tell me about it I live in London And I’ve never felt lonelier People have no social skills whatsoever But yh where there’s a will there a way huh We will do what we can for the lil ones! Xxx

I only have 1 support my sons god mother but other than that it’s just me both my kids are medically complex my youngest best with feeding tube requires 4 appts weekly with different providers and soon to have surgery in 4 weeks for GTube I had to find a way to balance work, school for my oldest and appts luckily my job allows me to work from home when needed but it’s hard but I push through stay positive and take it one day at a time

I’m a single parent I have been since she was born and I have no support either at all apart from nursery but she’s only in nursery when I go to work/uni. It’s so hard but also be proud of yourself for doing this all on your own as sometimes there really is no village. Also just think how special the bond is. I often think of that when I feel down or upset that it’s just me and her. Sending love and solidarity your way xxx

@Ceiana aweee girl that’s so much to handle alone 😩😩😩 it really is a two person job we are super mamas I do hope it gets easier for all of us with no village and yes a day at a time is how I’m handling it rn ❤️

@Khyla it’s crazy because I live in a city with so much family around and get not a bit of help and friends have changed form how they seemed, like all fav r the vibe they’d be so close to my son and not one is apart from my 1 mum friend and ofc we live far from each other so still 😂 lonely is the word 😩

@Kim yes exactly the bond we share and the love we have is what keeps me going !! We are their world because of the lack of village and it makes the bond even more special