Am I the only one?

I agree , I am a mom of a 2 month old and it did made me think of how was my childhood too . Best thing is to talk to someone if you feel like you need it x

I 110% recommend going to therapy. Working these things through is so eye opening but it takes time. I have an awful relationship with my mother and I wouldn't be where I am today without therapy. I've been in therapy for about 10 years, since I was 17, but really only started to have my eyes opened to some things about how I internalized her behavior in the last few years.

I've also been going through this. I have an almost 9 week old and have gone no contact on and off with my mum the past 7 years because of how she treated me growing up and continues to treat me now as an adult. I have been in counselling since I was 13 (so 14 years now) I pay a private counsellor who I have a great relationship with and who has already helped so much to deal with my past traumas. It's so heartbreaking to me realising that my mum will never change or accept accountability for her actions. I have again lost contact with her recently due to disagreements about my boundaries I have with my little boy. Unfortunately, I really believe that she didn't want to be a mum. Mums who wanted to be mums will be present grandmother's but mums who didn't won't be. I'm struggling with it but I think it's best she's distanced herself because I don't want my son been hurt by her.

Girl same. I have a 11 month old and a one month old now. I have dreams of treating my girls like my mom treated me and I’m not happy about it. Except things came to a head on thanksgiving when my family said my partner was no longer allowed to be around. I’m sure they thought I’d chose them like I always have in the past. Except my man has done nothing to warrant this behavior from them. So I chose him and went no contact. But I still dream and think I’ll be like my mom. She blatantly played favorites between me and my brother. It’s a fear of mine now. As a daughter I understand. My brother needed extra help and attention. But as a mother I can never forgive her. I’m 2.5 years younger than my brother and quite a bit more mature and intelligent (not being cocky, he’s developmentally delayed) but expecting your 6 year old to do your 8 year olds homework, then whooping their ass for not getting their own homework’s done is beyond absurd. I’m sorry you’re going through this mama.