How do you initiate sex

So maybe a stupid question but how do you guys initiate sex with each other? When I want it I tend to make sure I have a shower, shave etc then I get into bed and literally come onto him, sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't but mostly it does, when hubby wants sex he's like come and sit on my cock or come get it big girl. (I'm not big at all it's just something he says) I told him yesterday I wanted him to actually come onto me, kiss me, touch me etc not just say that, how do you all initiate it?