Would you compromise?

A man not going down on me a is definitely a deal breaker . I cannot be with a man that don’t eat pussy ever. Dammmmn!!! But each to their own

I wouldn’t compromise on the loss of equal pleasure. While I understand he may feel abit offended about needing to be guided, that’s the only way he will learn. And if he’s saying he doesn’t enjoy it because he feels he’s doing it wrong then again the plot way to overcome that is to keep going and learn exactly what to do and after a few times he will be 90% accustomed to it. I think having a conversation saying that you’re not being mean when giving him guidance towards it, it’s simply help as everyone has their own things they like and you’re just telling him what you like best! Alternatively ( I dont know how your dynamics/kinks or preferences are) you could always play “dom” and try to get him into it that way because then you telling him isn’t cruel it’s more of your groove as the dom role - if that’s the kind of thing you obviously could do.

Personally you shouldn’t force someone to do anything sexual they don’t want to do. What if he asked you to do anal? Would you be willing? I think the conversation should be more than just go down on me…. Ask first if you could learn together is he interested in giving it a try? Is there anything he wants to try you can both do. But honestly it would be my dealbreaker if my partner was to force me into something I didn’t want to do in the bedroom.

@Justina you know that’s the first thing that came to my mind like I was ready to say bye and walk away because it is something I love and enjoy but then I’m like ok not everyone is the same maybe he’s just nervous about doing it wrong but I’m the meantime I would like to try something else for my pleasure

@Alicia I get this I do idk if it’s just him not having that experience

It probably is, so I would stick it out and try to ease him into it and have a small conversation about it, don’t make the conversation big or anything just a small one and let him know it’s something that you feel would benefit the sex life etc.

@Alicia what can I try to use to show him like I was thinking to start a vibrator he would direct idk I want mine too

@Kathryn yea I don’t want to force him but the act of sex and pleasure should be mutual and I would still like for him to be open in different ways

Does he give you any pleasure in other ways normally? Like does he use his hands to please you. If so you could point out it’s a similar thing placement wise

He may realize you have more experience and because he doesn’t it’s uncomfortable/embarrassing for him. I’d maybe see about getting some toys and showing him what you like, using hands first might work him up to oral.

Then definitely discuss other things is going down in you isn’t something he wants to do, there are so many things you could do, but toys or something. Have a night of trying different positions and see what else might work, it’s always hard finding something that can work for both of you

@Lex your right I should go slow

@Kathryn I wouldn’t mind that

Hopefully you’ll find something for sure, it’s gaining that sexual confidence with each other that can be quite hard to determine and can take such a long time. Hopefully he can understand that as well because it should never just settle. Partners should be able to be open with their sex loves it’s so important

Yes absolutely, start slow and let him get comfortable!

I wouldn’t compromise but sounds like he lacks confidence and probably is embarrassed that he feels like he’s not dojng it right I’d say practise makes perfect & try to express when he hits the right spot so he gains confidence

@Sarah I don’t want to push it but I know what I want and like as well

Bless your heart. Keep trying hopefully he’s willing to learn

@Justina 😂 don’t feel sorry for me I feel sorry myself 😂 you know