How do you work!?

Hi Sewim! Before I had my baby, I had two other kids with me. I worked full time remotely and it was rough. I’d wake up and get my oldest ready and took him to school. When I’d get home I’d make breast fast for my second and get her set up with her learning and activities for the day while I logged onto my computer. She’d be occupied with snacks and her activities for a few hours while I engaged with her off and on. I was in hr so I wasn’t constantly needed by my desk. Then around lunch I’d take an hour lunch to spend time with her before we had to leave to pick up my son from school. When we got back, my two kids played together while I finished up work. I’d pause to make dinner and do an evening routine and spend time with the kids. When they fell asleep I’d get back on if I had to. I had no life. I don’t recommend it. I’m currently looking for part time remote work because full time work with two kids at home and one in school just isn’t realistic. They need more time from me.

First of all, you’re an amazing mom—don’t ever forget that. When you took your older child to school, did you take your younger one along with you? You’ve truly accomplished something incredible and done what’s so difficult. I say this because I have a 6-month-old baby girl, and believe me, even taking a shower feels like a luxury for me. Sometimes, I can’t even manage to have breakfast. My baby constantly wants to be held, always needs attention, and cries a lot 🥺. There are moments when I miss working because I feel the need to do something different, even just for a little while, but I know I couldn’t manage it. I look around and see people balancing a baby and a career, and it truly amazes me. That’s why I asked you this question.

@Sewim Aw you are absolutely too sweet! I had to take my younger one with me. My partner would be at work as he started around 3am and get back around 3pm. He’d take over playing with the kids after school before I got to making dinner. Sometimes when we are in the trenches of the first year, we easily yearn for what we lost, which is your independence. Maybe pick up on a hobby that you can do while your baby watches? It will give you a sense of independence and accomplishment while also soaking up the first year with her. Time flies by and sometimes we wish we can slow it down. With my last two babies, I took a year off of work with both. I lost my sanity more than once but I learned that doing something for myself gave it back to me while being present for the babies. Oh and my baby cries too when I shower so I started bathing with him. He’ll be in his baby bath tub while I sit and dump buckets of water on my head lol. He laughs.

The way you explain everything so simply and honestly is truly wonderful. When you look at some celebrity moms, it seems like everything is so easy and perfect for them. Naturally, seeing them can make you feel inadequate and bad about yourself. But you share everything as it is, and that has been such a comfort to me. It made me realize I’m not alone—being a mom is truly hard, yet at the same time, such a beautiful feeling.

I will try to take bath with her ☺️ thanks 🙏