How do I get my toddler to sleep so that I can sleep

Oh no! gosh you know I have the same problem with my 19 year old ! Sometimes I will even tire her out or what I think tires her out during the day and she still won’t just sleep . Baths don’t help that either like they claim. I did notice my 19 month old I had just stopped being as much of a light sleeper just recently! She was the worst any sound or if you move her she will wake up! But I do have this same issue and I I hate it it’s hard. :/ so I can get sleep I try to put her to sleep on my stomach. She falls asleep then I move her, :/ but I’m a single parent. Idk idk if I love sleeping with her in my bed every night but if I have energy I end up leaving her on the bed safely. :/ idk I hope u find some advice for this

Have you both tried contact maps during the day time? I have tried that with my second child and it worked so much. I was able to sleeep when she does.

@Lolaa I totally agree. There's no way I could've made it through all of my twins regressions without our naps. I lay down with them every single day, now just for routine but when they were little I needed it to catch up on all the rest I was losing at night. OP, it sounds like babe is in her 18m regression 🫶🏻 make sure your night time routine is solid and babes getting enough but not too much sleep during the day, and ride the waves until it's over 🫶🏻 my twins are almost 2 and I still won't let them cry it out, it doesn't teach them self soothing it teaches them not to trust you cause you won't come when they need you, which is evident by her panic screaming and vomitting. Your babe needs extra comfort throughout the night and that's okay, it won't last forever and even though it sounds absolutely insane right now, you will miss these days 🫶🏻

@Kylee I'm currently considering a behavioral therapist because it's more than just not sleeping but that the biggest issue she's hurting herself when she has tantrums and the doctors aren't listening to me I'm out of options because I've tired everything I'm also trying to convince my doctor to let me get my tubes tied because I can't handle this again 😔

Oh man I'm so sorry!! With 21 nieces and nephews and my own twins I can say that's totally normal, my twins were banging their heads on the walls and floors when they threw tantrums at that age (my son still does) my son will also pull his hair and smack himself in the head when he doesn't get what he wants, and I just stay consistent with "owww baby that hurts. Don't do that to yourself. Try to tell mama what's wrong" when she's able to speak in sentences the frustration and self harm will cut down immensely, she just doesn't know how to express her feelings so it's coming out in extreme ways. Therapy never hurts! So if you feel like that could be beneficial for your family then definitely stick to your guns and fight for your daughter until you find a doctor who will listen 🫶🏻