I could use some help

Is he an only child?

@Jess he has a baby brother. He's pretty good with him, very sweet.

Hmm, my son is about the same age, very verbal and emotionally intelligent. Any chance he feels under stimulated? Just a thought. My kidddo moves, pulls, pushes, throws. Depending on the kid, the feedback I’ve received is it’s developmentally appropriate

@Jess it's possible but I feel like I'm going insane. I work with him on stuff every day. We do letters cause he said he wants to read, we play ball together, go to parks, we do fine motor activities like drawing, playdough, scissors, at least one a day. We have playdates. His doctor did suggest that he might just be...very bright and in need of lots of stimulation and lots of challenges but I'm starting to question if there's enough in this world.

I think that’s what we’re going through over here. I was speaking with a long term educator and she suggested one play date a week with the same kids

Does he play independently?

@Jess I might have to do that. We did that for a while before I gave birth with one family consistently. If I'm being honest I've been nervous to go back to it because I'm worried he will be too rough cause they're a family of small girls and I don't want him to push

@Jess yes. And very well. Especially with cars

Our kiddos sound similar. I have a friend who has a girl six months younger. She bit the pushing phase first. I used to get so embarrassed when cooper did something. The other mom told me not to be embarrassed and I was reacting quickly and intervening and that it was fine.

My boy is so sweet, just testing his limits.

He is so young and still developing but I can understand your concerns mama! His sensory system is probably in disarray. There are strategies that can be put in place nonetheless less. You know we have 5 senses? We'll there are other senses that need to some attention as well like proprioception and vestibular senses. Research them a bit and get to know where your son needs more strategies. I reckon he you start with proprioception strategies and take it from there. Alot of these strategies when put in place before a said event will do wonders for his behavior. And get him to verbalize that he wants said strategy as a way to calm his mind and body. For example, wall press or wheel barrow walking are great for proprioception.

@Jess it's a shame we don't live closer for playdates 😅

@Nikeisha I'll definitely look into that thank you

Lemme know how it goes

I would recommend engaging him in activities that promote rough play. Here are some ideas https://www.ocd.pitt.edu/sites/default/files/Parent_Guides/Updated-Parenting-Guides/Rough%20Play%20Parent%20Guide.pdf Around bedtime, you can read stories about personal space and why poking other kids may not be appropriate. Don't be embarrassed, he sounds lovely and on target for his age.

@Marian thank you that's helpful. Overtime I'm coming back to realize the class is probably too long for him to focus so it's maybe not his fault. The class is taught by me because I was asked. It's put on by an art center and I think they don't really have any early childhood experts cause they're expecting them to sit for an hour and a half. I should probably tell them that an hour and a half is a ridiculous expectation for littles

It sounds like he’s a very social boy and the few times he’s around other children he gets very excited and maybe overstimulated. He’s just a people person. Does he have any cousins maybe that he can play with? I also think putting him with older kids might help. A lot of my son’s “friends” are 2-3 years older than him (he’s just turned 3). They seem happy to run around and tumble with him. He tries his best to keep up with them and usually tires himself out eventually but has a lot of fun all the same.

@Nicole my husband has a cousin and she is 10 and she adores playing with him but we don't always get the chance. It does tire him out which is nice. His other cousins are all girls who are very small and sensitive.