I felt offended - am I too sensitive?

Haha she hasn't met my daughter then ... Loves dinosaurs and loves cars, is a whirlwind and will wrestle anyone. Unless she is going to force her daughter to be someone and like certain things it's kind of out of her hands

But if you say I am glad I have a boy and not a girl all of a sudden you are patriarchal and your son will be misogynistic

I would be annoyed but smile thinking karma is a b***h 😀

Does she have a newbown or young baby? I have a little girl and she is wild (a good wild, I love her personality) My nephew is older and is calmer but still has a cheeky side (I love his little personality too) so I would never say this🤣 It really isn’t about gender whether a child is a certain way, its personality. I hope my daughter never loses her confidence she has rn because she is a ‘girl’ and has to ‘behave in a certain way’ Let kids be kids!

Not her thinking every boy is wild 🤦‍♀️ ignorant comment

Just wait until her girl is a teenager and then be like '...I'm so glad I have a boy'

I assume she’s not having any more then? It’s not really something you have a choice in. Plus not all boys are rough and tumble. Sounds a bit niave on her part. Girls can be just as difficult but in a completely different way. Much more devious. Mine has perfected the art of sulking and get upset over the silliest things. I’d just treat it like one of those off handed comments people make.

I’d be annoyed too tbh, my little girl loves dinosaurs and boyish things as much as girlie stuff. Also like….theyre babies…there is no boy or girl stuff there’s just stuff to them 😂 Also my girl is almost 8 months and is an absolute mad one lmao, my friends baby boy is so calm and chill! While my LG isn’t a crier or tantrum thrower she is always on the move, shouting, wriggling, smashing her toys everywhere 😂

Also sorry but we were all teenage girls once, she’ll get her karma when her daughter hits 13 I’m sure 😂

well for starters it’s silly because it’s assuming all boys are wild and all girls the opposite🥴 but also she’s SPECIFICALLY saying that after spending time with you and your son so i’d definitely be like wtf. it would feel like an insult to my son regardless of whether that’s what she’s intending x

Its offence / hurtful but probably not intentional

Ignorant comment to mention it yet again after you meeting with her, and also the fact that she mentioned she hates things for boys such as dinosaurs lmao. My daughter is obsessed with dinosaurs 🦕

My 2yr old daughter pretended she was a dinosaur during a diaper change the other day and then growled at her mother. 🤣 I'd let my friend know I find it hurtful as it seems she thinks having a boy sucks and I don't want my son hearing nasty comments like that.

Wth. I would literally tell her that’s rude. 🤬

I wouldn’t get offended because her opinion is still her opinion and I respect that, but it IS ignorant because not all boys are wild- mines not, he’s very gentle and compassionate, placid, does have “energy” but he’s not destructive, doesn’t hit etc. I wouldn’t describe my boy as “wild”.

Boys are much easier than girls though. She will be humbled when her daughter is a toddler 🙈

I’ve met enough little girls to know Karma is gonna do a 360 on her for chatting shit 😂

That’s really rude and such a childish comment to make 😳

I think your friend really wanted to have a boy .. so she has to convince her self it’s a better with a girl

She'll see 😂. My girls, especially my middle have been way harder than my boy was. They're also obsessed with dinosaurs 🤷‍♀️

People used to tell me that same thing. I'd just tell them that I love my boys. It is annoying and hurtful, and what people don't care to see is that girls are just as wild.. they're kids and kids are wild, they're fun and adventurous, but loving and sweet. My daughter is 6 months old, and she is wilder than what my boys were 😂. I can't tame this girl. Your friend will realize her daughter are all those things as the baby gets older.

My 2.5 year old daughter sounds more like your son she is obsessed with dinosaurs and Cars 🤣 having a certain gender doesn’t mean they will like things aimed at their gender or act a certain way . Sometimes comments just aren’t necessary 😬

My daughter is more wild than any of her brothers, she loves cars and dinosaurs too and my older son loves dance and "girly" toys etc good luck to her if she has that mentality, just sit back and watch it unravel she probably has no idea since her baby is brand new and maybe easy to her right now. Sounds like she already has plans to mould her into what she wants rather than let her be free to choose whay she likes. She also sounds judgemental. X

Reading this as my 8 month old tries to suffocate me with my bonnet is wild lol both genders have the opportunity to be wild or calm.

I would dish it right back and say something like "I'm glad I don't have a girl, girls are ..."

I wouldn’t care but maybe that’s be I am SO GLAD I had a boy 😉😆

Yeah I’d be offended, not the fact that she doesn’t want a boy, that’s cool she’s entitled to her opinion but to say it twice directly to you and the way she said it. To me I’d instantly think she doesn’t like my son and that’s why she’s saying it. I’d pull her up the next time she says it for sure. I had a girl and my best friend had a boy, I personally didn’t like boy stuff dinosaurs etc and boys are a little more crazier! But I absolutely love the bones of that little boy he was my daughters best friend and I could never imagine saying anything like that to my friend, if anything my love for her son made me want a little boy

this is funny cause a mom did something similar to me at the park talking about how boys are wild and messy when HER daughter was playing wildly and messy with my son??? i don't understand people LOL

Hahahahahaha good luck to her. My daughter is 2 and she's WILD 🤪. Revisit her comment in a couple of years and offer advice 😉

I don’t think it’s as big as a deal as you’re making it. Have you asked her to stop making those comments?

@Chloe I didn’t know how to approach it. I met with her again today with my other friend (who she doesn’t know, first time meeting) and she said to her I’m so glad I don’t have a boy he’s put me off - glad I got a girl x

I agree hahaha boys clothes are vile full of dinosaurs sometimes it’s so hard to find clothes for my boy that I like but girls can be just as wild 😂

Ugh thats so weird

I wouldn’t be insulted but I would probably think she wasn’t a nice character. I think I’d try to say why having a boy isn’t as bad as she thinks/what’s enjoyable about it. If she says it again after that I’d probably phase out seeing her because spending time with her wouldn’t be enjoyable.

Okay I won't lie, I have thought something like this but it's not something I would ever say out loud? I've seen my fair share of rowdy boys and it's not that I dont like boys I'm just grateful for my very chill girl. I've worried how I will cope if this next baby is a boy but I wouldn't dream of saying anything like that?

@Mia 🌼 I think it’s common for everyone to have thoughts of being thankful for that they have. But I don’t think it’s gender specific. Like the other day I saw a very loud, rude little girl shouting at her mom and I was very thankful for my chill boy! I’m about to have another boy and I’m praying he is also chill but I already know I’m not likely to get lucky twice 😂

I voted wrong!!! I meant I agree with you not your friend. Fuck that bish 😂

@Louise yeah to be honest I'm just grateful she's chill but I don't think it's specifically because she's a girl! I see some WILD little girls at school pickup and even then I'm like oof glad mines not like that I couldn't keep up but yeah I couldn't bring myself to ever say that out loud!

Sounds like she’s got a lot to learn🤷🏼‍♀️

Sounds like she wanted a boy and is trying to make herself be ok that she got a girl

I'd personally be annoyed! My boy is also a free spirit ❤️ nothing better imo!

there’s always a nasty karen in our lives who will piss off our moods. try to give them back with something nasty 😅

You're being sensitive but also Id be annoyed too lol. Like it really truly has nothing to do with our boys/us as their moms but still, why say it? Weird. I've been reading Boymom lately though so I'd for sure be particularly sensitive to it (recommend as well if you're interested in how gender roles etc affect boys and men - the author sometimes rubs me wrong but the topics discussed are really interesting!)

One time can be dismissed but repeatedly mentioning is like ok girl. You could say, Thank God I was blessed with one or Thank goodness I am the lucky one, because I really love my son. Either one with a smile.

That’s really rude. You don’t have to say every thought that comes into your head. And it just sounds like a regular 19month old anyway!

Yeah, I'd be p*ssed, she's blatenly saying it as a judgement of your son, I wouldn't be happy..

First and foremost … I used to work in childcare and have had girls more feral than boys. Boy or girl, it’s all over the place. Second … that may be her opinion and that’s ok, but the way she expressed it comes off snide - def a rude comment to make.

She probably wanted a boy, and is trying to convince herself otherwise 🤷🏻‍♀️

Very judgemental and incorrect to believe girls can’t be that way too. My girl is a complete nutter and doesn’t stop 😂

She’s obv seen how your sons been acting and not liked it and made that comment which is so cheeky!! in my opinion! Boys are the best!!! Wait untill her girl starts taking tantrums! 🤣🤣