Feels like we’ve been potty training forever :(

I feel so embarrassed by this… but my daughter is 4 and she’s barely potty training. Is it possible for kids to feel completely done with pull ups, and WANT to wear underwear but they’re refusing to go to the toilet???? I am crying over here. I still have to take her every few hours to see if she has to go pee or number 2 because she still isn’t telling me that she has to go, she goes in her pants if i don’t tell her. At first I was fine, because i know that’s normal but it’s legit been a few weeks now like since this is my first time i’m just looking for tips. She is legit holding in her pee and poop, and is SCREAMING at us to not go to the toilet. I don’t know what’s happening here this is so difficult it’s really really triggering i’ve been crying for weeks.

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If you only started potty training a few weeks ago then yes, very normal to have to remind them often to go potty.

@Mirka just stressful when she holds it, especially her poop i’m afraid of her causing herself issues 😔😔

My daughter was like this the first few days when we started she would freak out about sitting on the potty. Not sure if this will help but a few things we did was rewarding when sitting on the potty even if she didn’t go, singing songs while sitting on the potty to help her relax, or having cuddles while on the potty. Also throwing the wee/poo in the toilet together and saying bye to it. Before we started my daughter would never tell us when she needed to go, so I just put her in knickers so she got used to the feeling, it started off with her just wetting herself for a few days but by day 4 she was using the potty all the time with no accidents but still needed some comfort and reassurance occasionally. I’m sure it will get better with time. Another thing people have suggested is putting an open nappy inside the potty so they don’t have the open feeling when they’re using it xx

It's normal at the start of potty training. Is there a reason you waited until she was 4? We used the Oh Crap! book and method so basically they don't wear anything on their bottom halves for a 3-4 days and then you gradually start to introduce clothes. For us, trousers came before underwear so he was going commando for a bit. He'd wet himself wearing underwear initially as it felt so close to a nappy.

Yes, I can imagine that's stressful. Just remember, pooping was probably one of the first things Bub did after birth. "All you have to do" (easier said than done) is showing them that we actually don't poop in our pants, we use a toilet. They will get around to it and get used to the new norm. Try feeding foods that help with a good bowl movement to make it easier. Like oats, plum, dates, whole grains, lots of fibre etc

@Caroline Yeah just because she has trouble understanding things :( I tried a couple of times, but then she started to associate potty training with stomach ache and rashes because the only times she was trying those happened to her and she would hold it in all day. it’s a rough time potty training for us :(

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