Advice
Not really baby related but I need somes advice. I've been friends with this woman for 7 years, we met at work and immediately became good friends. She's 10 years older than me but this hasn't been an issue. She's such a good/nice person, kind and isnt nasty to anyone. She's kinda a fragile person (past trauma) and I've been there for her many times when she's having a bad time and I've always spoken to her and helped reassure her and just generally tried to be supportive and kind. Before having my baby I moved to a different city, and had my baby with my husband soon after. Since my baby has been born, she doesn't really speak to me much any more, if at all. I still try to message her and she does reply once or twice but usually ends up leaving me on read. I don't understand why she is doing this because she is actually such a compassionate person. I don't think she's jealous or anything because she doesn't want kids and isnt interested in marriage or anythjng. Ive put off asking her about this for the past year or so because she doesn't like conflict and usually gets upset if she perceives she's done something wrong, and likewise if she doesn't want to be friends anymore I think she is the type of person who wouldn't admit this but would just continue the friendship out of guilt.
Do you think she doesn't want to be friends anymore? Any advice? I only ask because she is someone who I was very very close to, so I really am utterly confused as to why she has completely fell off the radar now.
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Awww. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I say reach out to her , call her. If she picks up have this convo. Or text her. Explain it all. Leave the ball on her court, if no answering the phone/ text. I say it’s pretty clear. She lost a good friend!
Just call her! I have a no-kids, 10 years older, used to work together friend and we talk all the time! She's a talker, so we go for hours and hours about her HOA, her crappy neighbors, her current work colleagues, who she stays in touch with from our old job, her family, all of it. She doesn't mind my kids in the background, she's like an Auntie to them. Some people are just weird with text, give her a call!
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I'd say if you value the friendship and think it can work long distance then bring it up to her in a tactful way. My husband made friends at work in the past and they were very close. However, when he switched jobs they kind of just stopped speaking to each other. I never understood why. I guess it was convenient to have the friend when he worked with them, but when it became more difficult to stay in contact it just stopped.