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Baby is not here yet but we have renovated our downstairs office as a bedroom for me and the baby for this exact reason! My 3 year old and husband will be upstairs. That way everyone gets rest. I EBF my first and will be my second. We started out in the same room with my son and quickly realised doing “shifts” in separate rooms was a better idea xx
I’ve been sleeping in a separate room since I was pregnant with my first! He’s a snorer and also suffers with what we think is sleep apnea he’s been referred waiting for an appointment which is taking ages. Although I miss waking up together we tend to put LO to bed then we spend a few hours in ‘his bed’ watching tv or a film then usually when he’s fallen asleep I’ll get into mine and I’ll be honest our relationship has actually been better 😅 I’m a horrible person when I don’t sleep well. I’m hoping when he gets some results for his sleeping we will start sleeping together but for now I’m enjoying starfishing 😂
I EBF but my partner takes baby and puts her in the cot... I personally like to have him there with me! If we have a really bad night and I co-sleep then he goes in a different room.
With my first we mostly slept in separate rooms but i really struggled with doing the full night on my own (ebf) with a colicky baby, feeling lonely and also missing my husband! This time we said we would do things differently, however ive had a c section and im struggling to lift baby in and out of crib so we’ve been co-sleeping (ebf again) and it doesnt feel like we have enough space with the 3 of us. Baby also hasn’t been colicky (so far) as we sussed allergens right away 🤞🏻🤞🏻 so its overall less taxing so I don’t mind husband being in a different room as much. So baby and me get our superking size bed all to ourselves haha
I EBF too but I don’t think I could sleep without my husband, luckily he’s a heavy sleeper and only wakes up at the morning 7ish am feed to change the nappy and cuddle with baby while I get a few extra hours of sleep.
Our little one is bottle fed. We have a three year old who has not slept through the night hardly ever. So when he cries for mummy I tend to co sleep with him and send husband into his bed then I solo have baby throughout the night. I prefer this as my husband is a deep sleeper and never wakes up to the baby or our son which just winds me up more so I find it mentally easier that he isn't next to me sleeping while I'm up, if you get me. You got to do what works for you all to get some sleep.
We're 3 weeks in and I'm EBF. We started out with me and baby in our spare bedroom but it just made me sad and lonely tbh! We're now back in our main bedroom, my partner sleeps with earphones and currently gets a good night's sleep. Baby wakes every 1-3hours for a feed. If he needs a nappy change I'll go into the spare room to do it, sometimes I'll feed in there too or do it in our bed. And if I feel I need support during the night or help with a nappy change then my partner knows I'll just wake him up. But ultimately you have to do what works and feels right for you!
That’s the best advice someone gave us - we slept separate for 4-6 weeks and took turns to take care of the new born.. I pumped as well and was able to sleep 6 hours from week 2 itself
Yeah totally normal.. my entire NCT group of 8 new mums did this (and 2 still have it in place 17 months later!), and I'm doing it again for my current newborn. When she sleeps better maybe round 4/5 months i think we will be back in the same room at weekends. And same as last time he won't move back in full time until baby goes in her own room because from around 6 months my last was woken easily by us moving or partner snoring etc. I will move baby out around 8 months as she'll be going in with her brother so will probably take some adjustment!