Vasectomy

So my husband had a vasectomy.. we both decided this was the right option we have two healthy happy little boys who are very close together in age but now I am starting to wonder whether we made the right decision and I’m often getting quite emotional about it and the fact we won’t have any more😢 At the time after having our second baby I was 100% sure I didn’t want anymore as we found it quite hard having 2 both not walking and in nappies at the same time but now I’m starting to wonder did we rush the decision and that there may be no going back.

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Your husband could look into a vasectomy reversal if you do choose to try again? Might be worth looking into if it's something you want further down the line x

I would make the decision to reverse it and then you get on birth control. After a certain period, the success rates of a pregnancy can be low.

I think there is often a lot of uncertainty in the decision to be finished having children. Others are pointing out that you might not be out of options which can give you hope but you can also explore those feeling more in the meantime. Do you really want more or is it more of grieving that baby/small child stage? I'll probably have that myself. I've been thinking about it during my second pregnancy. It's not practical to have more kids and I definitely can't have another one super close in age but I'm already older. At the same time it's super sad to think I don't get the small baby part anymore after this one that is coming soon.

I thought I was definitely finished and part of me still does but I think it’s just sad not having the option currently. I know it’s not practical for us to have a 3rd.. we would need a bigger house.. a bigger car etc and at the minute we are comfortable and I’m so lucky to have two beautiful boys who are so healthy and happy. We are still young, I’m 31 and my husband is 30 so I do think what if we changed our minds and then it’s too late or it can’t be reversed etc. All mixed emotions currently! Birth control has never agreed with me which is why we went with the vasectomy x

If youre going to reverse a vasectomy it's best to do it's sooner rather then later. Success rates for undoing a vasectomy go down especially after 5 years.

If you are even questioning it then that shows you may want another at some point. You are both young to make a pretty permanent choice. I would get it reversed. You may be in a different position financially etc in a few years and still have lots of time to have another. Otherwise it would be IVF. Very costly. See how your thought processes are over the next few months I’m sure you will come to some decision either that you may want another at some point or definitly done. X

Oh sorry! I hope you didn't take that as I meant it not practical for you. I meant for my own family in that sentence. You are definitely still very young and have plenty of time to build for those larger items if you do think you might want to consider that reversal in the nearish future. You still do have options available!

It is perfectly normal to grieve the loss of the option to have more. You both made the best decision you thought your family needed. But it doesn't mean it's not sad. It doesn't mean you have to feel nothing. It's like being married but still daydreaming about Jason Mamoa. 🤭

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