Just a boy thing or keep an eye on this

I think it might be a boy thing because my son just turned one last month and I also noticed he's been a bit aggressive. Sometimes he'll hit me in the face and if I say no, he just does it again. When I tell him no or take something away from him (for his safety), he gets super mad and throws a fit. Maybe it's a phase? But I'm in the same boat.

We definitely went through this around that age. He’s almost 20 months now and it’s calmed down a bit, he still has tantrums but he’s stopped slamming his head into the walls/floor and the threat of physical harm seems a bit less daunting. It sounds like you’re handling it the best you can be. You got this mama 💙

How old is he? My son is 7 and he does this but he has autism. Not being funny when I say this but if you google the difference between a meltdown and a tantrum you will see the definitions are different, have a look and see if it sounds familiar, meltdowns are more about trying to process and regulate your emotions were as tantrums are acting out to intentionally get your own way to a degree. Overall my son is very loving because I now have more of an understanding of the difference so I can be there for him more and I’ve learnt with my boy that time on his own helps him regulate better. Hope this helps, not meaning to sound patronising but just something to think about if you haven’t already 😊

My son also went through a similar period and I was very worried. I was recommended to speak to him. Acknowledge that sucks that you are not getting what you want a try to calm him. It wasn’t easy at first but eventually he started to come down and do deep breathing with us. He has stoped hitting him self against the floor or trying to harm us too. He still has his moments obviously but is much more manageable and not as scary 🤷🏽‍♀️💫💕

I thought this was a 'everybody does this' thing. I never seen a child NOT get their way- then calmly say: 'its okay- maybe I wasn't meant to have that, hey mother. Thank you for saying no'

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So it's NOT a boy thing. This behaviour isn't gendered and doesn't just occur in boys. Up to a certain age, it's VERY much, just a CHILD thing. Not everything needs to be gendered. In saying this, it may not be abnormal for a child of his age and development, but I'd be speaking to Drs and Paeds, just so they are aware. I'd try teaching him sign language or have picture cards to help him communicate. I'd also organise a safe space for him to have his meltdowns or tantrums. When he has them, as long as he is safe, let him have them. Tell him you are here when he is ready and then stay within view but ignore him until he is ready, then talk it through. My son sees an OT, and I brought up with her that due to experiencing feelings, he couldn't articulate he bashed his head into a wooden beam in our carport. I was low-key terrified that he would do some serious damage. He is 3 and a tornado, lol She is going to consult with a behavioural therapist. Good luck!

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@Hannah I like 'the safe space idea.'

I just randomly saw this post, even though I am not a boy mom. And I just wanted to say that I see some of this behavior in my daughter (16 months) when there are multiple things causing her frustration - not enough sleep, hungry, changes in routine… and on top it something else not going her way. Her most common way of venting frustration is to grab my face and either pull my hair, rip off my glasses and fling them across the room, or just pull on my ears and nose until she gets a reaction. When my face is not in reach, she will throw herself on the floor. What’s worked to help minimize these moments or at least make them shorter is to remove her from any dangerous situations (example, throwing herself on the ground in a parking lot). I give her a few moments to safely play out whatever she feels like she needs to get out of her system and then I talk to her about what’s going on. I don’t give into what seems to be the want, but I try to make sure she knows she’s safe.

My husband's always aggressive with me and my son such a sweetie has recently started to become aggressive. And he's not even a year. But don't ignore. Have you asked him directly what the issue is? I repeat to my son "be calm or I won't help you and you will just be put in bed" and he usually calms down from that then is nicer and more clear..idk you probably have tried it. This is my first boy. So I could use some help too when my thing stops working.