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My partner was diagnosed with possible bi polar and isn’t consistent with taking his meds. We have no money and rely on his income alone to pay bills as I’m on maternity leave. He’s always super tired and calls in late and my body fills will rage hearing him and watching him snooze his alarm. I don’t know what to do we have two littles and I know the rage is going to cause resentment

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You can’t help someone who doesn’t want help unfortunately.. is there a reason he isn’t taking his medication? Do you have any access to talk with his therapist and/ or psychiatrist? Maybe he needs a change in medication if he thinks it wasn’t working, but having a mental illness is not an excuse to not be a functioning human especially when you have been given resources to help

I completely understand how you must feel, it sounds really hard. However, bipolar can cause a real lack of motivation, and if he’s untreated this will obviously not be helping. Medication can also cause fatigue and if he’s in the low phase of the illness that may explain why he’s not wanting to do anything. But why isn’t he taking the medication? Is he having unwanted side effects? (Some of the side effects are awful but a doctor can alter the dose, change the medication, or supplement with another medication to help). I think it’s really easy to pass judgement until you actually experience the illness yourself. It is *really* hard for people to function having BPAD. I would try and communicate with him, find out what’s happening and how you can support him to get help. Also, if there’s any help for you as you would probably meet the criteria as a ‘carer’ - in the UK there is government help for carers.

@Amy I’m really trying to understand and not act on how I’m feeling. I know he said they make him feel sick but the doctor said it could take a few weeks for them to work and with him not being consistent it doesn’t help. Or he’ll have a drink and the doctor said he can’t drink on them so he’ll skip that night. I find it hard to stay motivated myself more when he’s unmotivated. Which is something I need to work on myself

No I completely understand how you’re feeling. I’m sorry 😞 He might be drinking to self medicate which obviously is not good. It does take a little while for the medication to kick in, but if you can try and book him a doctors appointment and go with him so the doctor can speak to him again. Do you have any family support?

You mentioned that he said they make him feel sick. When my husband started new meds, he had awful nausea and the Dr prescribed anti sickness x

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