No visitors at the hospital…(RANT)

Oh boy. Just told my mum that I won’t be having visitors if I end up giving birth at the hospital. She already knew she’s not allowed to the birth centre I’ve chose (convinced her only one birthing partner allowed which is my husband) but if I get moved to the hospital I still want no visitors. I’m temporarily living at her house anyway (military wife, wanted to give birth in my home town) and she still can’t accept that she will be meeting the baby before anyone else. She even snapped “WELL YOU BETTER TELL YOUR FRIENDS NO VISITORS” to which I responded that they already respect my boundaries and know to ask before turning up. My mum is classed as disabled so her mobility is limited and so is her eyesight so I don’t see how she thinks she will be able to carry the baby or care for him when he’s here without supervision. Don’t get me started on the “no kissing baby” rule, that was another fight. RANT OVER 🥵

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Tell the hospital staff and put it on your birth preferences that you want no visitors, that way if anyone turns up then they won't be aloud in x

Boundaries with family can be super tough during pregnancy. My parents told us they're thinking of staying somewhere locally when we've had the baby so they can "help". We want to adjust to being a family of 3 with minimal visitors the first few weeks and told them we would only allow visits for a couple of hrs at a time and wouldn't be hosting people for long periods of time. The reaction was literal silence and then they said they were gonna go home..so awkward!

I literally told my husband to let everyone know I had the baby once I’m back home and ready for visitors, which will be after a few days😆

This is the message I wrote for him to send out: “Dear Family, We are overjoyed to share the wonderful news that Stef has given birth to our beautiful baby girl. Both Stef and baby are doing well, and we are now home, settling into this precious new chapter. We would love for you to meet her soon, but kindly ask that you let us know in advance before visiting so we can make sure Stef and the baby are feeling rested and ready. Additionally, since our apartment is quite small, it would be helpful to avoid too many visitors at the same time. Thank you so much for your understanding, love, and support during this special time. We can’t wait for you to meet little baby! With love, “

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