Told my man that I think he is still in love with his ex. Can we come back from this?

Guess that depends on what your ex's answer was to that

If you both want to work on it then yes. If only one of you does then no. It will depend on how he really feels, more than on what you said or how. Hope it works out for you.

I definitely depends on the context and situation in which you said those things and his reactions from you saying them. If you clearly said them in a place of genuine concern and wanting to support him getting help, then depending on his reaction, yes I think you’ll be able to work through this as you didn’t do anything wrong bringing up your concerns. If it was just during an argument you threw it out there that he loves his ex and he’s depressed about his kid and needs therapy etc, then still it depends on him, but I wouldn’t personally forgive you. I think it will also depend on how you handle the situation now. Even if you said it with genuine concern, if it did upset him then you have to respect that it isn’t a nice thing to hear and he may want some space etc, to process it all. Let him set the pace for how you work on this, as this is clearly his decision to make on how you proceed and if he gets help or not etc ❤️

@Ellie-May Whether I made myself look jealous doesn't really matter to to me, because it is the truth and I don't believe that his inability to enjoy the family we created, is fair to me and the children we created. I know some of you have harsh opinions, even stating that what I said was unforgivable. I'm assuming you think that me and my children should suffer in silence or not say anything and just leave and break up the family.. please elaborate💕

@Megan he's not an ex I'm not sure what you mean💗

I was multitasking lol I meant to say I guess that it would depend on what your partner's answer was to being asked if he was still in love with his ex

Why do you think he's still in love with his ex instead of just upset about not having his son live with y'all? Therapy is definitely a good idea, individual and couple's

@Raqi the "hatred" he has for her. Like, why so much emotion it's been 8 years. When we were dating he also told me he was depressed about the divorce for a very long time.. idk it's also a gut feeling, can't explain .. but it could also just be me

I understand. My friend is going through a divorce and her ex definitely never got over his ex wife, and she was definitely hurt by it. It felt like their whole relationship was a lie in some ways. If he isn't willing to work on his mental health and figure out how to make peace with the situation, I don't think you'd be wrong to consider leaving since he isn't being an active enough participant in your relationship since you feel like he's so focused on her and the past.

Do you really want to be with someone that you think is still in love with someone else?

Just because he had so much hatred for someone doesn't mean they are in love with them still, obviously he will always have some form of love for them as they gave him a child... That cannot be helped... But it's not an in love, but if he isn't actively in yours or your kids life, tell him seek help or he will lose you and his other kids because you can't have you and your kids suffer because he can't get over the situation with his ex, give him a time frame to sort things and if he doesn't follow though or start to act better you leave, but you will have given him chance to correct it and for him to show he loves and cares for you all