!!!Moms of color!!!

If you are a white woman in a relationship with a black man it’s most important for you to make sure you know that your child will face struggles as a mixed person and a black person. Unless they are white passing. Mixed is an experience you and your partner have yet to experience and the challenges you will face will mostly be with the fact that you can teach them black and white but you can’t teach them mixed and the reality of how the world will see them and you as parents. The best way to support a black person during black history month is to not do anything at all. Support them as a HUMAN every month. The black doesn’t disappear on March 1st. As a black person and a friend of many interracial couples the biggest struggle you will have as a family is what other people think. Have grace with yourself. You can’t control the world 🙏🏽

@Tishina I’m not looking for ways to support him during black history month. More looking to support him during the way this Presidential term is going. With the revoking of DEI and “dei holidays” and the revoking of the civil rights act and just the way racism in the country is clearly increasing. He has been really struggling with everything the past 2 weeks. He is mixed so he does know the struggles of being mixed. Our daughter is white passing in my opinion but my fiancé disagrees. And I know eventually she may struggle with that and he is prepared to handle that and I’m here to learn and support her in anyway I can. The black history month on the calendar was more to show him that black history month is not going away no matter what is going on in our government.

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You're off to a great start! I'm biracial, and I think the most important thing white mothers of mixed kids can do is really dig deep and make sure they've checked and examined their own internal (often unconscious) racial biases. I really liked the work book Me and White Supremacy. Too many (not saying you're one of them at all!) white moms seem to feel like they don't have to do the work because their BIPOC partner and biracial child obviously means they aren't racist. Their kids wind up with a lot of baggage as a result

@Raqi thank you!! I am going to look up and boom and see if I have the money do get it now if not I’ll get it when I get paid. We got together in 2020 right before the blm protests and we thrived then as a couple even with the world being the way it was but now it’s harder on him and he’s struggling to with the current administration and all the racism they’ve emboldened. And it feels like I can’t help 😩 maybe because it’s way more this time around. I just feel horrible watching all of this hurt him.

@Taylor Okay so I looked at your profile and omg so cute. And yes in my opinion your daughter is white passing. And this is random but your daughter is just as much black as I am white. I’m the reverse and a quarter white with the rest being black and nobody can tell.😂 I think during the administration it’s hard. My partner is from IMMIGRANT PARENTS so I understand constantly being worried about how to help. The truth is that the only thing you can do is be the best you can to him as a human. Make life fun and be a breath of fresh air away from this all!!!! In my opinion there isn’t really anything you can do beyond that. This situation sucks for you too. You are a woman!!!! And a mom! Nobody wins in this administration Blessings🙏🏽

@Tishina girl that’s what I’m saying! I’m not denying that she is mixed and that it’s her culture but she is very white passing. I’ve had to set boundaries when it comes to him saying words that she may repeat because she’s like a parrot and we’ve talked about her hair being different than his. I do braid his hair and give him little spa days but we talked about how her hair styles and care routine is different. But yeah I get what you’re saying. Things have been incredibly hard for me as well but I try to bury it around him because I know he’s really struggling. His dad is an immigrant too (from Jamaica) and we’re worried about that as well. We’ve tried unplugging but then we’re scared about what we are missing. This whole thing is just really shitty and I feel horrible

Be a safe space for him to vent, be himself and express his thought. Listen before you say anything and don’t try to be a savior, just be his woman. I would def educate myself about his culture if you can do so with his family, have your daughter play with all kinds of kids, especially black and have black mom friends too. If you’ve never watch the Colin Kaepernick docuseries I would too. It’ll give you much perspective. Even if your child is white passing, you still want to learn. And she may be white passing now but might not stay that way too.

@✨Wis 🇭🇹 thank you! I do have to get used to not trying to be a savior because I know there is most likely nothing I can do to stop the world🥲 his dads family is not really around most of them live in Jamaica and his dad lives in a different state! I do have black family as well so my daughter is around other people of color! I also make sure to buy kids books that represent poc. I buy them for the white children in my family too! I’m always trying to educate myself more for the both of them! I do have alot of friends who are poc but unfortunately none are mothers 🥴 i do lack in the mom friend department but I do have one mom friend who also has a mixed daughter and they’re the same age so it’ll be nice for them to have eachother to lean on in this world.

@✨Wis 🇭🇹 also I will look into the docuseries! Is that the one on Netflix (Colin in black and white) if so I did watch it.

@Taylor that’s awesome! Yes I believe that’s the one. But learning about Jamaican history would be great too to teach your daughter. @knowyourcaribbean on IG is awesome for that. And YouTube has good stuff as well

@✨Wis 🇭🇹 thank you!!! I appreciate you for your comments!!